There are a few things to remember when everything seems to be going wrong, aspects that will help you get through all the hard times you’ll have to face along the way. Sometimes the best thing you can do to brighten up your day is to avoid dwelling on what went wrong and to simply focus on what you want to do next. While I did the research for this little article I came across this very inspiring quote by Henry Ford that summarizes best what I wanted to say: “When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.” A lot of the problems people have to face in life are inevitable and they still have to somehow find the strength to overcome them. Otherwise, by being stressed out and always feeling overwhelmed, they won’t do anything to improve their situation. So, here are a few things to remember when everything seems to be going wrong:
1. Most of Your Problems Are Temporary
One of the most important things to remember when everything seems to be going wrong is the fact that most of your problems are actually temporary and that all of it will eventually pass; you just need to be patient because life’s rough patches won’t last forever. Everyone has to face a lot of stressful situations on a daily basis, so you’re not alone out there. Remind yourself that things will get better eventually and never lose hope because things won’t be this bad forever!
2. You do Have Some Control of the Situation
Even if you won’t believe me when I tell you this, I want you to know that you have some control of the situation because you can actually decide how you want to look at that problem and how you perceive it. You can always control your attitude and the way you react to what life offers you even if you are not in complete control of that situation. Always try to focus on the things you can influence instead of feeling hopeless and powerless, without trying to do anything in order to change that.
3. Not Everything is Going Wrong
Even though you may feel overwhelmed by all the problems that appeared in your life, I want to tell you that if you take a close look at the situation, you’ll notice that not all things go wrong in your life and that you still have a lot of things to enjoy and to be grateful for. Even though it may be hard in the beginning to recognize what is actually going right or even marvelous in your life, don’t give up and keep searching. Do this, and just like Amy Morin (psychotherapist, adjunct college psychology instructor and blogger at lifehack.org) said, “Purposely look for the positive, even if it is something very small.”
4. You Have Overcome a Lot of Other past Difficulties
Every time you’re facing a big problem and feeling overwhelmed by it, try to remember that in the past, you have overcome a lot of other difficulties you’ve encountered in your path and that it all worked out for the best. Also, don’t minimize the importance of those problems you’ve dealt with successfully, because by always reminding yourself that you have all the resources you need to deal with all kinds of issues, you’ll increase your self-confidence and you’ll definitely boost your self-esteem.
5. You Can Handle This
You can overcome all the difficulties that might appear in your path if you never lose hope and if you believe in yourself. You can handle this and you will be successful as long as you don’t give up and declare defeat. You can get through anything, just discover those resources hidden deep within you and remember that something good will come out of this.
6. You Can Always Ask for Help
When things get tough, you can always ask for help. This doesn’t mean that you are weak or incapable of taking care of your own problems, just that you’ve reached a point where you realize that you need other people’s support in order to feel better again. There’s nothing to be ashamed of! Just like Rona Barrett, columnist and businesswoman, said, “The strong individual is the one who asks for help when he needs it.”
7. Much of This Won’t Matter in a Few Years
Most of the things you worry about today won’t matter in a few years, so please follow Amy Morin’s advice and “Remind yourself that whatever is going wrong now is only a small percentage of your actual life. Even if you’re dealing with a major problem, like a loved one’s illness, remember that a lot of good things are likely to happen in the course of a year or two as well.”
When you’re facing a challenge, it’s extremely important to never lose hope. There’s always a way out of every situation and you have all the resources you need to overcome all the difficulties that may appear in your path. Can you think of other things someone should remember when everything seems to be going wrong? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!