There are two words I would always like to be described as by people who know me or who have met me. One is interesting and the other is charming. I like to be thought of as interesting because it means you’ve made an impression – whether favorable or unfavorable is up to how “interesting” you want to be. Charming, however, is not so ambiguous. It is a delightful description of someone who leaves a lasting favorable impression. If you want to be known as charming, this is how:
The key to how to be charming is to simply be yourself. People will quickly realize if you are putting on a personality that isn’t your true self, and this air of falseness will come across as the absolute opposite of charming. The one thing that you can do without ever having to think about it is to be yourself, and this ease of personality will come across really well.
This does not mean that you have to be a physical match to the Angelina Jolies and Megan Foxes of the world, but more simply that if you make the most of what you’ve got and present yourself in a way that makes you feel good, then this will be noticeable to those around you also. Being happy and confident in how your look leads to an effortless charm.
Much like the first tip of being yourself, the best policy for trying to be authentically charming is to be open and honest in discussion. There is nothing worse than being caught in a lie or realizing you have told two differing stories to two different people. Being honest is the safest way to assure that your charm comes through in a clear way.
It is essential that along with being honest, you are also polite to whomever you are socializing with. Charm is achieved through genuine kindness, so treat others how you would wish to be treated and they will no doubt take an instant liking to you. It costs nothing to be nice!
It can be a bit of a drag to be serious all the time, so showcase your sense of humor and your natural charm will definitely find its way to the surface. This doesn’t necessarily mean standing in a group and firing off knock knock jokes, but more just openness to the funnier side of situations and the ability not to take yourself too seriously.
Much like having no sense of humor, being a person who is always looking at things from the pessimistic side of life is never going to evoke much charm for those around them. Being positive and optimistic is always a more enjoyable frame of mind to put yourself in, and it definitely rubs off on the people with whom you are interacting. Being positive can put a spring in your step which will lead to much more charm being showcased than if you were always the voice of doom!
There is nothing worse than having a conversation with somebody who only really sees it as a chance to talk interminably about themselves. True charm is found when you are truly engaged in a discussion with somebody, really listening to what they have to say and then responding with interesting and thought out questions. Showing that you are genuinely interested in what your peers have to say comes across as incredibly charming.
Charming people get on in life and are happy because they aren’t wasting time trying to be someone they’re not. Cultivate charm and you cultivate self esteem and self love as well as attracting it from those around you.
What characteristic “word” would you like to live up to?
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