Why You Need Sadness 😭 in Order to Appreciate πŸ™πŸΌ Happiness 😁 ...

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It seems like a strange concept doesn’t it?

That to be happier you have to be sad.

But it’s true.

If you want to be not only a happier person but a better person, you should embrace sadness.

Let’s see why and how.

1. You Cannot Make Your Sad Feelings Go Away

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Embracing sadness can make you happier.

The world is full of people that are sad about one thing or another.2

If you ever meet a truly happy person, you do not know that person very well.3

Every single person has a reason to give up, but the point is that we don’t.

The world is a cruel and harsh place, and it is going to kick you until you bleed.

Ignoring the pain that life causes is the fastest route to alcoholism, drug abuse, sexual perversion and even suicide.

Life is going to kick you, and you have to let it hurt.

You have to give yourself time to let your hurt go away.

You cannot change what is in the past, but you can make damn sure that things do not go the same way in the future.

Let yourself feel sad, so that you may heal and become happy again.

Bottle up your feelings, and they will be expressed in another (and usually more negative) way.

2. Acceptance is the Most Difficult Hurdle

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Elizabeth Kubler Ross says we go through denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

The first three, denial, anger, and bargaining happen in any order, and we often find that the first four seem to happen out of sync, such as how one day you are angry, the next you are depressed, and then right back to angry again, and so on.

The last stage is always acceptance, and it is the most difficult stage.

Your goal is to find a way to accept what has happened, and learn as much as you can from it.

If your goal is not acceptance and learning, then you may find yourself stuck in the Kubler Ross cycle forever.

Happiness will come after acceptance, but you have to let the other stuff happen first.

Sadness is Seductive
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