We all have aspects about ourselves that we hate, but that doesn’t mean we should hate ourselves as a whole. For every bad quality we have, there’s a good quality to balance it out. Besides, some of the things we consider to be flaws aren’t flaws at all. It all depends on how we look at ourselves. If you’ve been having trouble accepting yourself for who you are, personality wise or looks wise, here are a few things that might help you come to peace with yourself:
1. Surround Yourself with Sweet People
if you surround yourself with friends who tear themselves down, you're going to view their behavior as acceptable, and will start to do it to yourself. However, if you surround yourself with sweet people who speak positively about themselves, you'll end up behaving optimistically, just like them. That's why you need to be careful about who you call your friends.
2. Know Who You Are
You can't accept yourself until you truly know yourself. Don't judge yourself for the situation you were born into or for the way you look. When you strip away the amount of money you make and how much you weigh, who are you? It's important to see past the external things to find out who you really are.
3. List Your Good Deeds
Take the time to write down all of your good qualities and all of the good deeds you've done in the past. Don't forget even one of them. Mention the sweet card you gave your grandmother for her birthday and the time you tutored your little cousin for free.
4. Forgive Yourself
You can't accept your present self until you forgive your past self. You may not be the same person you used to be, but that doesn't mean you should hate the way you were. You did what you did for a reason, and while it might've been a mistake, you can't torture yourself over it forever. It's time to move on.
5. Do Charity Work
When you help others, you help yourself. A great way to learn to accept yourself is by becoming someone you can be proud of. Start to do that by volunteering to do charity work and helping your friends out of jams when they need you.
6. Treat Yourself Kindly
You treat things of value with care. When you buy an expensive pocketbook, you try your best to keep it clean, because you know it's worth a lot of money. It's the same when it comes to people. If you start treating your body better by taking care of it and pampering it, you'll start to view it as more valuable.
7. Look at Your Life from Your Friend's POV
You know you have friends and family who love you, but have you ever thought about why they love you? Try to look at yourself from their point of view. Once you're able to see the beauty in yourself that your friends see, you won't only accept yourself, but you'll appreciate yourself in a way you never have before.
In order to be truly happy, you need to accept yourself for who you are. That doesn't mean that you should stop trying to better yourself. It just means you should be at peace with yourself. What has helped you find acceptance with yourself?