There are many causes of low self-esteem. In an ideal world, each and every one of us would be the confident, outgoing, happy individuals that we aspire to be, but unfortunately, for many different reasons, lots of people around the world find themselves burdened with low self-esteem and a general air of dissatisfaction and unhappiness. When you are at your lowest ebb, it can often feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, but you can’t let your mind get the better of you and trick you into thinking that there is no way to get and feel better. Here are some of the key causes of low self-esteem, and how to deal with them.
Your peers are one of the biggest causes of low self esteem, especially if you are still in an educational environment. One way to counteract this is to seek out clubs and opportunities in which you can find like-minded students, rather than trying to compare and live up to others that have different ambitions.
Whether they mean to or not, your own family can cause a lot of problems related to self-esteem. We recommend turning to your nearest and dearest friends for support when your family is getting you down. Having an understanding group to be able to complain to will make you feel much better.
3. Previous Mistakes
You might be one of those people who lies awake at night, torturing yourself over something that happened months ago. It can be a hard cycle to get out of, but you really need to commit to not wasting energy on things that happened in the past and absolutely cannot be changed now.
You may have had a recent setback in the form of a failure, maybe in school or at work, but you need to remember that nobody in the world is perfect, and even the most successful of people had to fail a hundred times before getting to the level that they are at right now. Failure is a natural occurrence on the road to success.
5. Unachievable Goals
Maybe you are feeling low because the original goals you set for yourself were unachievable to start with? This is something that we do that will only ever set us up for a bout of low esteem. Rather than trying to aim straight for the end goal, instead break down your ambition into smaller, more achievable tasks that don’t feel so daunting.
6. Social Media
Social media can be a great tool to connect you to everyone and everything in the world, but it can also be very damaging to your self-esteem if you find yourself constantly comparing your life to the lives of others who appear to be ‘doing better’. Try an experiment - take yourself off of social media completely for a month, and see whether you start to feel any better about yourself without the constant comparisons.