Are you looking for ways to value yourself more? When it comes to articles in magazines and hot topic pieces online, there is a general tendency that when it comes to the art of bettering yourself and improving your life and lifestyle, that the secret key is to opening your eyes to value the things and the people around you more. While this is obviously a positive and recommended thing, I happen to think that the most important area of focus when it comes to making positive changes in your life, is to increase how much you value yourself, rather than spending all of your time trying to value others. If you don’t love yourself, then it is very hard to send positive energy out to those around you, so the best place to start is at ground zero, with you! Here are some ways to value yourself more.
One of the best ways to value yourself more is to stop with the comparisons. Comparing your own life to other people’s lives is a sure fire way to have zero self-value, simply because human tendency means that we will always compare ourselves with a celebrity or somebody more successful! It’s not fair to your mental health to set it up for failure like this, so instead, don’t compare yourself to others, but compare yourself to your own life a week, month, a year ago. You will see how far you have come.
Don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve, and this can apply to many different areas from romance to work to friendship choices and more. If you keep settling, you will go through life with regrets, and regrets can eat away at you like nothing else.
Try to find something to appreciate in everything in an attempt to change your mindset. Appreciate the comfy bed that you get to sleep in, the nice clothes that you get to wear, the friendly office that you get to work in. All of that positive energy will start to make a difference, encouraging you to be happy from the inside out.
For your own sake, you need to cut out any relationships in your life that might not be deemed as healthy from an outside perspective. We all have a few ‘friends’ who take, take, take and never give, and these people are a key drain on your self-worth. This is another form of not settling. You simply don’t have to waste energy on people who don’t value you.
No is a word that people who aren’t confident have trouble saying, preferring to say yes to appease others and then experiencing internal turmoil and anxiety. You need to learn how to say no and recognize that it doesn’t mean you are a bad person. It just means that you are starting to understand your own value, and giving your time only to the things that you want to.
The important thing to do is always follow your heart, only doing things that you know deep down you want to do and will be good for you. As soon as you start to eliminate the unwanted activities and elements of your life, you will start to discover your self-worth hidden deep down inside, waiting to be unleashed!