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7 Ways to Make Peace with Who You Are ...

By Holly

There are ways to make peace with who you are so that you live a happier life. You don't want to walk around hating yourself, because it'll put a damper on your day. You have to learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Here are some ways to make peace with who you are:

1 Accept What You Can't Change

If you're insecure about the color of your skin or the size of your nose, you have to accept that you can't change it, and there's nothing that you should even want to change. Those traits are what make you you. Some little things, like the curliness of your hair, can be changed with the help of a straightener, but that doesn't mean that you should be ashamed of your natural hair. One of the best ways to make peace with who you are is to accept what you look like, even if you don't like it.

2 Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

When you get a good grade on a test, be proud of yourself, even if all of your friends received better ones. If you love your new pocketbook, but then see strangers with designer bags, don't be ashamed of the pocketbook you used to love. There's no reason to compare yourself to others when it'll only upset you.

3 Challenge Yourself

Whenever you look into the mirror, give yourself a compliment. If you think of one right away, then come up with a few more. It's a way to train your brain to start thinking positively about yourself.

4 Move on from Your past

The person you were in the past is not the same person you are now. Stop feeling bad about the things you did when you were younger. You've learned from them, and it's time to move on from them. Stop focusing on what you've already done and start thinking about what you will do.

5 Ignore the Media

Your confidence would be higher if you stopped watching TV and flipping through magazines, but that's impossible in this century. Since you can't run away from the media, you have to remember that it's not as accurate as it pretends to be. Celebrity women aren't as flawless as they look on the cover of Cosmo. Don't feel inferior to them, because the image you're seeing isn't a real one.

6 Have Respect for Yourself

Self-respect is crucial to your happiness. If you don't respect yourself, figure out why. What qualities do you respect in others? If you like people who are selfless, try to be less selfish. If you like people who are giving, volunteer to help out a charity. You'll be helping others while feeling better about yourself.

7 Get to Know Yourself

As much fun as it is to hang out with your friends, you need to set aside some alone time as well. Get to know yourself. Have you ever sat down and really thought about what you love, like, and hate? Once you discover what truly makes you happy, you'll find peace.

It's dangerous to think poorly of yourself. You have to learn to accept yourself, despite all of the things that you dislike about your appearance and personality. You're stuck with your body and soul, so you might as well love what you have. What's your favorite aspect about yourself?

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