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5 Genius Ways to Boost Your Confidence ...

By Kirsten

Need some ways to give your self-confidence a boost?
While building your confidence takes consistent effort and time, there are some great, short-term solutions that will add up other time. Read on for 5 great ways to give your self-confidence a boost.

Table of contents:

  1. Work out
  2. Make a gratitude list
  3. Perform an act of kindness
  4. Challenge your thoughts
  5. Ditch toxic friends

1 Work out

Exercise is one of the best ways to give your self-confidence a boost. Regular exercise (daily to a few times a week) can really help boost your confidence. When we do aerobic exercise (think exercise that requires heavier breathing, such as running or a dance class) our body is flooded by feel-good chemicals, including endorphins, serotonin (responsible for making you feel calm and happy), and most importantly dopamine – which is a key chemical for helping you to feel more confident.

Exercise and workouts also help us feel fantastic because they provide us with a sense of accomplishment. One study showed that women who regularly danced experienced higher self-esteem. So stick some tunes on and enjoy the rush of those feel-good chemicals.

2 Make a Gratitude List

You may have heard of the power of gratitude lists: several studies have found that writing three things that you appreciate or enjoyed from the day can boost your happiness by as much as 10% in the space of a month. Gratitude lists are a fabulous way to boost your happiness and you can also use them to help boost your self-esteem.

Each day, write down three things you did well that day or that you feel proud of. Maybe you remembered to wash the dishes, or you helped a friend out by listening to her problems. Make a note of three things that you did well and that you can praise yourself for. As the days go by, these feel-good notes will add up and help boost your confidence.

3 Perform an Act of Kindness

Acts of kindness are a brilliant way to help uplift your self-esteem. Each week, why not set yourself three small acts of kindness. Acts of kindness are a wonderful way to help feel good about yourself and will also get you out of your own head, moving your focus from picking apart your flaws to helping someone else. You can find some great ideas for acts of kindness online, but any small act will do. How about buying a relative a bunch of flowers or donating to a charity you believe in?

4 Challenge Your Thoughts

If you are struggling with low self-esteem, one of the most effective ways to tackle this issue is to work on challenging your thinking styles. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is the gold-standard for many challenging emotions and thinking styles. It’s backed by hundreds of studies that show that challenging your thoughts really works to help make a change in your mood and wellbeing.

Grab a piece of a paper and a pen or open up an online notepad and write down any negative thoughts you have about yourself. Now, imagine that your thoughts were coming from your worst enemy or a drunk stranger on the street. What would you say to defend yourself and challenge these comments if they were coming from someone else?

You can use evidence and alternatives to help "argue" with your negative thoughts. For example, you may have the thought “no one likes me”, and then the evidence against this thought may be that you have some friends that enjoy spending time with you or that you recently received a compliment from someone you admire.

Spending 10-15 minutes each day working on challenging your negative thoughts is likely the most effective way to help boost your confidence and self-esteem.

5 Ditch Toxic Friends

Finally, pay careful attention to how the people around you make you feel. If you are spending time with anyone that makes you feel bad about yourself in any way, then consider putting some space between you. You deserve to be around people that make you feel good about yourself and there are many lovely people out there who will appreciate you for you. Try to remember that when people are grumpy or unkind, it's far more about their own insecurities and weaknesses than it is about you. Take time to build positive relationships with people who really appreciate you.

We hope you found our advice on how to build your confidence helpful! Have any favorite tips on how to help grow confidence? Feel free to share them with us!

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