I first bought a law of attraction book when my son was in hospital with sepsis. He was three weeks old and recovering well, but I wasn’t quite ready to let myself sleep. In the hospital shop was a law of attraction book. Being in my spaced out and only-partially-coherent state, I decided it’d be a good one to read. Years on, and I know people who are strict adherents! Now this is something I love, because it involves a whole lotta being nice. It seems to work for them, and there are perfectly plausible reasons as to why.
1. Generally, Being Nice Returns Niceness
There is no magical secrets behind the phenomenon that is people being nice to you when you are nice to them too. I have spent time in emergency rooms (ERs) over the course of my degree. Trust me, when you are in an emergency room you are more likely to get nastiness hurled in your direction. The law of attraction promotes sending love through always being nice to others. Even in the ER, this approach helps people simmer down. There is no big law of attraction secret here; people just generally need a little love at times to be nice themselves.
2. Acting with Meaning = Productivity
Another key lesson you learn as a law of attraction student is to be purposeful with each action. This then generates success. Well, of course it does! The more purposeful and focused you are, the more productive you are. You get organized, every moment goes towards something productive, and life turns out well.
3. Appreciation Makes the World Sunnier
One lesson that really stuck out to me was appreciating the moment. As the book put it: “With one foot in the future and another in the past, you can only pee on the present.” Yup, absolutely true. When you stop and take a good look at what is great around you, everything seems sunnier. There are definitely times when this is hard, but for many of us there is almost always something to love. This isn’t really a case of the universe making your life better; you just learn to love it more.
4. Trusting More Leads to Success
Honestly, very few emotions are more pointless than worry. Of course we all have times when we really need to worry. Such as when someone calls you and says “We need to talk” (I hate that sentence). But most of the time, the things we worry about need focus and belief in ourselves. Worrying holds you back. Trusting that you are capable helps you see what you CAN do to make a problem better. Again, the universe isn’t giving you something here: you are just demonstrating your abilities.
5. Affirmations Also Lead to Success
There’s no magic formula to affirmations either. The more you let yourself know you are great (and yes, you really are), the more confident you feel. When you feel confident, you go out and get the things you want. So many of us suffer from unnecessary self-confidence issues, when we are actually just capable people who have suffered from the harsh words of others. I highly recommend affirmations as a confidence booster; they help you exercise your abilities better.
6. Structuring Your Goals...
…you guessed it, it leads to SUCCESS. Now this was one lesson that (in the midst of my sleepless haze) made me think “Oh good gosh I have been going about life the wrong way. This is amazing.” In fact, planning carefully and writing out how you will get to your goals step-by-step just makes reaching them easier. Without doing this, you just wake up every day and fumble until you’ve lost 24-hours. I’m a bit of an organisational disaster, but when I do structure goals they almost always go excellently.
7. It’s Just a Great Motivator
The law of attraction, whether you buy into the universe giving you something back or not, is just a great motivator. You can be an atheist, deist, or somewhere in-between and still benefit from the underlying message of these principles. They help you massage your self-confidence, adopt tactics for getting on, and make organizing life easier. Reading about how capable you are as a person is quite cathartic. I’d recommend it to anybody.
8. It's Not a Wish Magnet
Deepak Chopra addresses this exact topic on Oprah.com where he mentioned that many people misinterpret the law of attraction and people tend to think and use it as a wish magnet. Chopra goes on to say that law of attraction pulls of everything-both good and bad. So what does this have to do with the concept working? It just means that obstacles and barriers are all a part of the big picture. So while you might think it's not working unless good things are happening, it's not so, it's all part of the process.
9. Be Aware and Believe
We often hear the saying "fake it 'til you make it" and apply the concept to various issues. In the law of attraction, "faking it" or simply believing can actually result in your dreams realized. For example, Lady Gaga was once asked in an interview how she became famous so quickly and she simply responded that she knew she was famous before the public even knew of her. She thought, felt, acted and believed that she was famous and successful before it actually happened. While her situation might be the exception, by practicing this type of role play, it can change your perceptions and create new sequences of energy at the very least.
Okay, as someone who is friends with true law of attraction believers, I get plenty of chances to discuss how the universe works. This is why I’d love to know if YOU have had success with these ‘laws’, and why you believe they have worked. In the meantime, I’ll keep stalking the blogs of others who try it. I just love to bathe in the positivity…
This article was written in collaboration with editor Lisa Washington.