We all think that Ronda Rousey is one of the strongest women in the world. She is a UFC champion after all. What does Ronda do before a big fight? She doesn’t punch a wall. She is actually very emotional before a fight. In fact, she’s been known to cry.
Are you surprised? You shouldn’t be. People from Abraham Lincoln, George Washington, and even former President Barack Obama have cried in public. These are some of history’s toughest men who have openly cried in public. Why shouldn’t they? Most psychologists say that crying is a sign of strong mental health.
Here are some reasons that show it is fine to cry:
1. Tears Will Help You Let Go
There are several reasons that you feel better after a good cry. Your sympathetic nervous system gets activated before. After you cry, your breathing and heart rate slow down. Your digestion starts back, and you begin to relax. If we don’t cry, our feelings get stuck inside us. If we don’t allow ourselves to feel our feelings, we can’t learn from them and therefore we won’t be able to move forward.
2. Tears Have Health Benefits
Crying releases stress hormones and can help your immune system. Tears actually contain natural bonding hormones, relaxation aids, and pain relievers that are not in the natural moisture of your eyes.
3. Tears Release Stress
In this architecture world, strength is more than just hardiness. A good structure that is sturdy will relieve stress before it gets destructive. This is equally true for a strong person, too. For a lot of people, crying can help relieve pent up stress that can damage us, if we don’t deal with it properly. Look at it as a great design feature.
4. Tears Show We Are Vulnerable
Most people feel pressured to show nothing but a perfect image. They have to show a person that can handle any situation and who never gets upset. That isn’t the kind of person that people want to work, date, or be friends with. People get attracted to people that they relate to. People that are humble enough to admit that they aren’t always perfect.
Vulnerability is not just attractive. It can also be adaptive. One reason that we have learned to cry is so we show others that we need help.
5. Tears Can Help Relieve Depression
Crying has been proven to make you feel better. It is very rare that crying makes you feel worse. It helps to release pent-up emotions and energy.
Crying can help regulate the lows and highs of being extremely emotional. Tears can help you get through moments of strong feelings without hurting ourselves. When you feel down, crying should not embarrass you. It tells others that you are trying to manage your mental health.
6. Tears Can Help You Process Loss and Grief
To quote William Shakespeare: “To weep is to make less the depth of grief”. Losing something or someone that is important to you is tragic. These feelings will engulf you to where the only relief you get is by crying and a big hug from a good friend.
We will hold back tears to not make others uncomfortable. You don’t have to pretend to be strong to make other people feel comfortable.
You should focus on what you need to do to get through the present moment. Crying can comfort you. Your tears can be your best friend while you work through this loss.
7. Tears Will Help You Feel when You Are Confused
If you have ever cried because you did not know how or what to feel, this is perfectly normal. Life can become too much to handle at times. It can be hard to be composed when your next step is not clear. Trying to figure everything out can be overwhelming. Crying might be the ticket to relief. Crying releases stress and can make you feel better. It can also help get the creative juices flowing. Once you’ve felt the release that crying can bring, you might have more energy and get new ideas about how to handle the challenge you are facing.
As mentioned above, tears can make other feel uncomfortable. If you don’t cry, you could suppress your feelings so much that you won’t be able to recognize them the next time.
So cry with pride because you know you are doing what is natural and right to help your mental and physical well-being.