Sometimes it can be really difficult to see the reasons to be kind to those who have hurt you. Being vengeful or unkind in return comes so much easier. But those choices will be like an added poison to you. There are a lot of reasons to be kind to those who have hurt you. Let’s talk about some of them.

1. It Softens Your Heart toward Them

One of the reasons to be kind to those who have hurt you is because it softens your heart toward them. If you decide to respond to someone as cruelly as they have been to you, it will just feed your hard feelings. Being kind to them is the better choice. You will find that you feel less anger toward them. You may even find that you pity them for being such a miserable person.

2. It Proves What a Wonderful Person You Are

This shouldn’t be your only motivation but it is true. Being kind to someone who has hurt you shows what a wonderful person that you are. It shows it to you, to the person who hurt you and to everyone around you. You may even amaze those around you by your decision to take the high road. It could inspire others to be kind to those who have hurt them in their life.

3. You Will Feel Better about Yourself

You will always feel better about yourself when you are kind to those who have hurt you. Unkindness never makes anyone feel better. Instead, it is like feeling bad twice. You feel bad once for how the person hurt you and then you will feel bad a second time when you respond unkindly. Being kind is the right choice and that always feels good.

4. You Could Change Their Behavior toward You

You could change the behavior of the person who has hurt you by being kind to them. You may make them rethink their actions. After all, they can’t justify what they did to you if you are being nothing but good to them. Making the choice to be kind to them may be just the recipe needed to make them sorry for what they have done. This has a better chance of changing their behavior than returning their unkindness.

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5. You Won’t Have Guilt on Your Conscience

This is a very good reason to be kind to those who have hurt you. If you are kind to them, you will not have anything on your conscience to feel guilty about. Being unkind in return means that you will have that on your conscience. You then feel bad about two things. You feel bad because you were hurt and bad because you acted poorly in return. It is a better choice to respond with kindness.

6. It Will Speak Well of You

Being kind in return to someone who has done something to hurt you will speak well of you. It lets others know what a good person you are, especially in light of being mistreated. Others will take note of your good character. It will shine through. The person who was hurtful to you will also notice, whether they want to do so or not.

7. It Will Get to Them

Lastly, you can take pleasure in the fact that being kind to someone who hurt you will get to them. It is a very real way to kill them with kindness, as the saying goes. It could push them into an apology. Even if it doesn’t, it will get to them. It will drive them crazy that they could not push you into stooping to their level and that is motivation enough to be kind.

What are your thoughts? Have you been in this situation? Did you choose to respond with kindness?

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yemi
2014-08-22T01:14:49.704Z
Truly easier in theory than practice! Really hard to practice but these are the things to do really. You should do these things and I tell you that person will be the one carrying the guilt around. But really it's hard to do
duje
2014-08-22T01:33:38.567Z
Good article. Just because someone has bad ln them doesnt u have to have bad ln u too
Yeela
2014-08-24T09:23:37.926Z
I just had a fight with my friends and I'm so sorry I didn't read it before ... 😞
witch
2014-08-23T17:57:14.362Z
Yes agrees what @shannon. Once biten twice shy and they never change. They r evil to u once they will forever be evil to u
Angela
2014-08-22T00:17:27.282Z
Good advice to give out and I think this does give you a different point of view on how to handle situation like this for you can make better choices
Sabrina
2014-08-22T04:45:28.032Z
FYI I don't feel guilty for others who have hurt me. I don't need to be around people who have hurt me to show them the kind person I am. I send them love and high vibration from a "distance" (separation is an illusion). I somewhat agree with this article. I prefer to say, be yourself. If it is your nature to be kind then stay true to that no mater what. Show yourself kindness first. Don't put you raked in situations for those people to hurt you again. Let it go. Forgive in your heart and move on.
Ayesha
2014-08-22T04:22:07.965Z
Such a great read, really helped me through what I have been dealing with
Beurgsay
2014-08-22T00:26:30.526Z
Fantastic article. So much easier in theory than in practice, it's something I really need to work on.
Bea
2014-08-23T06:29:40.836Z
The last couple of months have taught me that even thou people have hurt me i always let it go over my head and I continued being kind a nice they only upset and hurt me more... In the end It affected me so much I ended up in stress class!! Now I've learnt a lares on in life forgive them feel sorry pity for then then leave them let them realise you don't need negative people and move on :-) Enjoy life
Ayantu
2023-01-06T20:55:00.197Z
Ayantu; being kind is really hurt me so many time and being kind for someone hurt you is still the same. they keep hurt me so many times. i think the good way of ride of it is forgive and distance. negative people are always negative.