Sometimes it can be really difficult to see the reasons to be kind to those who have hurt you. Being vengeful or unkind in return comes so much easier. But those choices will be like an added poison to you. There are a lot of reasons to be kind to those who have hurt you. Let’s talk about some of them.
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1. It Softens Your Heart toward Them
One of the reasons to be kind to those who have hurt you is because it softens your heart toward them. If you decide to respond to someone as cruelly as they have been to you, it will just feed your hard feelings. Being kind to them is the better choice. You will find that you feel less anger toward them. You may even find that you pity them for being such a miserable person.
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Holding onto bitterness can harden not just your feelings towards others but can encroach upon your own sense of peace. Embracing kindness serves as a balm that doesn't just mitigate the negativity; it helps unravel the complex emotions that entrap your heart. Choosing compassion over retribution is a testament to your strength and facilitates healing. By acting with grace, you elevate yourself and can break the cycle of hurt, fostering a more nurturing environment for your own emotional wellbeing.
2. It Proves What a Wonderful Person You Are
This shouldn’t be your only motivation but it is true. Being kind to someone who has hurt you shows what a wonderful person that you are. It shows it to you, to the person who hurt you and to everyone around you. You may even amaze those around you by your decision to take the high road. It could inspire others to be kind to those who have hurt them in their life.
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Exhibiting kindness in the face of pain isn't just an internal triumph; it's an external demonstration of character. Your actions become a mirror, reflecting your inner strength and the depth of your empathy. Moreover, this act of compassion might not only heal old wounds but also cultivate a culture of forgiveness. Imagine the ripple effect as one act of grace leads to another, creating a tapestry of understanding and gentleness in a world that often forgets the power of a tender gesture.
Frequently asked questions
It's tough, I know. But being kind can actually help you heal. It shows you're strong and not letting bitterness control you. Plus, it can sometimes lead to mending bridges.
Totally. It doesn't mean you're forgetting what happened or saying it was okay, it just means you're choosing to rise above it. Being nice can sometimes surprise people and lead to positive changes.
Start small. Maybe just smile or say hello. You don't have to be best friends. Just little acts of kindness can really make a difference, for you and for them.
Your feelings matter. If it's too hard or makes you feel worse, it's okay to step back. Being kind doesn't mean you have to put yourself in a bad situation. Take care of you first.
Possibly! Sometimes, a bit of kindness can open people's eyes. They might see the impact of their actions and feel inspired to change. But even if they don't, you're showing them a better way.
3. You Will Feel Better about Yourself
You will always feel better about yourself when you are kind to those who have hurt you. Unkindness never makes anyone feel better. Instead, it is like feeling bad twice. You feel bad once for how the person hurt you and then you will feel bad a second time when you respond unkindly. Being kind is the right choice and that always feels good.
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Embracing kindness in the face of mistreatment is not just an act of outward generosity but an investment in your own self-worth. When you act with grace and understanding, you're fostering a sense of inner peace that retaliatory actions simply cannot offer. Self-respect is nurtured each time you choose the high road, and with it blooms a quiet confidence that is visible to all. Through kindness, you're also setting boundaries of how you wish to be treated and recognized, which is profoundly affirm.
4. You Could Change Their Behavior toward You
You could change the behavior of the person who has hurt you by being kind to them. You may make them rethink their actions. After all, they can’t justify what they did to you if you are being nothing but good to them. Making the choice to be kind to them may be just the recipe needed to make them sorry for what they have done. This has a better chance of changing their behavior than returning their unkindness.
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Kindness can become a transformative power that shifts dynamics in relationships. When one responds with compassion in the face of hostility, it can disarm the aggressor. Your benevolence can act as a mirror, reflecting their behavior with stark contrast, thereby encouraging self-reflection. It isn't about being a doormat; rather, it's about choosing a path that fosters closure and healing. By leading with empathy, you set a standard for interactions that can encourage growth and understanding on both sides. Choosing kindness is, in essence, choosing to cultivate a more forgiving and nurturing environment.
5. You Won’t Have Guilt on Your Conscience
This is a very good reason to be kind to those who have hurt you. If you are kind to them, you will not have anything on your conscience to feel guilty about. Being unkind in return means that you will have that on your conscience. You then feel bad about two things. You feel bad because you were hurt and bad because you acted poorly in return. It is a better choice to respond with kindness.
6. It Will Speak Well of You
Being kind in return to someone who has done something to hurt you will speak well of you. It lets others know what a good person you are, especially in light of being mistreated. Others will take note of your good character. It will shine through. The person who was hurtful to you will also notice, whether they want to do so or not.
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Choosing compassion over anger can fundamentally shift the dynamic between you and the person who wronged you. By exuding kindness, you also set a high standard for how to handle conflict and negativity. It's not just about them; it’s also about nurturing your own inner peace and maintaining your dignity. While it's certainly not easy, your grace can act as a transformative force, potentially sparking a change of heart in the other person or inspiring onlookers to emulate your behavior in their lives.
7. It Will Get to Them
Lastly, you can take pleasure in the fact that being kind to someone who hurt you will get to them. It is a very real way to kill them with kindness, as the saying goes. It could push them into an apology. Even if it doesn’t, it will get to them. It will drive them crazy that they could not push you into stooping to their level and that is motivation enough to be kind.
What are your thoughts? Have you been in this situation? Did you choose to respond with kindness?
Comments
Ayantu: Ayantu; being kind is really hurt me so many time and being kind for someone hurt you is still the same. they keep hurt me so many times. i think the good way of ride of it is forgive and distance. negative people are always negative.
Sabrina: FYI I don't feel guilty for others who have hurt me. I don't need to be around people who have hurt me to show them the kind person I am. I send them love and high vibration from a "distance" (separation is an illusion). I somewhat agree with this article. I prefer to say, be yourself. If it is your nature to be kind then stay true to that no mater what. Show yourself kindness first. Don't put you raked in situations for those people to hurt you again. Let it go. Forgive in your heart and move on.
shannon: No thanks !!!! Fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me !
Yeela: I just had a fight with my friends and I'm so sorry I didn't read it before ... 😞
Brandi: I'm going to keep trying with my family. With others I just walk away.
Bea: The last couple of months have taught me that even thou people have hurt me i always let it go over my head and I continued being kind a nice they only upset and hurt me more... In the end It affected me so much I ended up in stress class!! Now I've learnt a lares on in life forgive them feel sorry pity for then then leave them let them realise you don't need negative people and move on :-) Enjoy life
witch: Yes agrees what @shannon. Once biten twice shy and they never change. They r evil to u once they will forever be evil to u
Ayesha: Such a great read, really helped me through what I have been dealing with
Beurgsay: Fantastic article. So much easier in theory than in practice, it's something I really need to work on.
: But if you're nice with the people that hurt you, everyone will take you for granted and show you no respect ...
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