How to Handle Confrontation without Crying ...

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You can't go through life without having confrontations.

Sometimes, the drama will come to you.

Other times, you'll be forced to initiate confrontation for the sake of your own health and happiness.

Either way, it can be hard to argue with someone without crying, which is why you should follow these tips to keep your cool:

1. Stick to the Topic at Hand

If you approached your boyfriend to complain about how he's always late for dates, then donโ€™t veer off topic by bringing up something hurtful he did years ago that you should've forgiven him for already.

If you bring up tons of different topics at once, the original one might be swept under the rug.2

Plus, the more bad memories you bring up, the bigger your chances are of starting a huge fight you didn't mean to start.

2. It's Usually Not Personal

If your boss fires you, it doesn't mean that she hates you.

She might've been forced by her boss to make some cuts.

She might've been informed that you did something that's against policy.2

Either way, it's likely not her way of telling you she can't stand you.

She's just doing her job.

3. Remember You Can Cry Later

There's nothing wrong with crying.

It helps you release your emotions so you can go through life happy again.

However, it can be embarrassing to cry in the midst of an argument.

In fact, it will typically make you lose that argument.

That's why you should hold back your tears by remembering that you'll be able to cry all you want later.

Just don't do it in the middle of a confrontation.

4. Keep Good Posture

You've heard that smiling can trick your brain into thinking that you're happy.

That's why you should stand up straight and speak confidently during a confrontation, in order to trick yourself into believing everything is okay.

If you mumble or let your voice waver, it'll show how upset you are, which can lead right to tears.

Rehearse What You're Going to Say
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