7 Things You Shouldn't Be Ashamed of as a Woman ...

Being a Woman • Your Body • Your Sexuality • Your Period • Not Wanting to Have Children • More ...

By Djamila • Aug 17, 2014 MD

Unfortunately nowadays many of us women are ashamed of things you shouldn’t be ashamed of. Often the media plays a large part in this issue. I say, forget about what everybody else thinks, and start caring about what it is you think. When you think about it, in the end we’re all the same fleshy beings held together nicely by some skin. So leave the shame behind and read about the things you shouldn’t be ashamed of as a woman.

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1. Being a Woman

First of all, never ever be ashamed of your gender. I’m thinking along the lines of gender discrimination at work for example. You are not less capable than a man, you are not less worthy of that promotion and you most certainly are not present so male coworkers have something nice to look at. I’m absolutely not trying to be hostile towards men here; the unfortunate truth however is that gender discrimination does still happen. Embrace your femininity, because being a woman is definitely one of the things you shouldn’t be ashamed of.

2. Your Body

I truly hope that someday no woman on earth will feel ashamed of her body anymore. It’s just so sad to see so many gorgeous women being insecure about themselves, don’t you agree? Try to stop worrying about what other people might think of you, try to stop to live up to society’s ridiculous expectations, and start living your life the way you want to! I know this is easier said than done, but girl honestly, who cares about those curves or imperfect skin? I’m the first one to admit I’m far from perfect, I am short, skinny and incredibly pale, I have small breasts, and a big Italian nose. Lucky for me I don’t try to be perfect, I just try to be me. In the end you can’t please everyone, so please yourself instead! There’s always people who will think you’re too skinny while others think you’re perfectly fine and some might even think you’re a bit chubby. Let them think whatever they want, because you are perfectly fine the way you are.

3. Your Sexuality

Don’t you just love to talk about things many people are uncomfortable talking about? Well I do, because in my opinion there’s nothing that cannot be discussed. Your body is yours, who you decide to give it to is one hundred percent your own decision. Never do anything you don’t want to just because you think it is expected of you. This goes both ways, don’t start having sex if you don’t want to, but also don’t save yourself for marriage when you don’t want to. Think about it, would you mind if the woman across the street is still a virgin? Probably not. But would you think the same of her when she has been with, let’s say, ten different men in the last month? If that thought even bothers you one bit, try asking yourself why. Her actions haven’t personally affected you, so why would you mind what she does between the sheets? As women we should always back each other up and not bash each other. And as people, we should accept that different people have different sexualities. Personally I believe in love, because well, love is love you know. Love whomever you want! There can’t ever be too much love, so start giving it more to receive it more.

4. Your Period

As much as we hate it, we shouldn’t be ashamed of the big ‘P-word’ either. I know it’s always inconvenient and uncomfortable. Well except maybe for those ladies in pad or tampon commercials; somehow they always seem to just love having their period. But back to the real world, I know it stinks, in every sense of the word. But if it wasn’t for our dreaded friend, we wouldn’t be able to get pregnant, ladies. And let’s be honest I think we all agree when I say pregnancy is one of nature’s most beautiful inventions. So maybe all of those uncomfortable times might be worth it. A little while ago I was waiting at a bus stop, next to a teenage girl. She stood up and walked over to the stop in the opposite direction. Then this awesome woman comes along and sees (unused) tampons lying on the floor. I guess she figured they belonged to the girl who was sitting next to me earlier and instead of saying nothing, she practically yelled across the street, ‘Hey girl, I think you lost your tampons.’ The girl was embarrassed but seriously, how awesome is this woman for not being weird about the tampons?! Now that’s a woman who’s not ashamed of nature’s ways, everyone should be more like her if you ask me.

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5. Not Wanting to Have Children

Maybe this wasn’t a thing you’d expect to see on this list, but I think it’s very important to stress freedom of choice. Just because you were built to give birth, doesn’t mean you want to. Motherhood can be absolutely beautiful and wonderful, but every pro has its con. Heck I could write a whole new article about the benefits of not having kids. So please don’t be ashamed if you choose to live your life for yourself and not have children. I know this is a touchy subject, but even if you find yourself in an abortion clinic, ultimately it is your choice. Personally I am pro-choice, I’m neither for or against abortion. Every woman should have the right to assess the situation and do what she thinks is best for all involved. That being said, please do take actions to prevent unwanted pregnancies wherever you can though!

6. Girly Stuff

To continue on a lighter note, who doesn’t love to be a real girly girl sometimes? I don’t exactly see myself as a girly girl, but I do love my chick flicks every once in a while. Whatever your girly thing might be, embrace it, enjoy it. Shopping, dancing, acting like a total nut, purses, shoes, make-up, lingerie, I mean come on, what’s the point of being a woman if you can’t act like a total girly girl sometimes?!

7. Your Own Style

I’d like to end this list with the issue of not dressing how you want to. Some of us dare to be different, some of us only dream to be different. If you’re a plain Jane wanting to rock that bohemian style, by all means do it. Follow fashion, or don’t, whatever you wear, make sure you feel awesome in it. Whether it be a simple pair of jeans or a bright colored yellow dress, just own it. Try on different things and styles to see what fits you most, and never feel self-aware or ashamed of your own style.

Tell me, how do you feel? Do you feel awesome about yourself? You should! I truly hope I made a difference for those of you who are ashamed of things listed above. Please always remember to live life the way you want to, instead of being lived by others. Who knows of even more things you shouldn’t be ashamed of?

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  • Chantal

    2014-08-17T23:15:03.386Z

    This article is amazing!! Thank you for writing it! :)
  • Cristina

    2014-08-18T15:24:07.402Z

    Love this article so much! Thanks for posting !! :)
  • Liza

    2014-08-18T15:54:30.742Z

    Dear Djamila, Thank you so very much for your response to my comment. I did understand exactly where you were coming from in your article. I just felt that that one phrase could have been written differently so that we as women can both support & understand those of us who remain child free, without judgement. I have to say that I was very surprised & pleased that you responded to my comment. This helps me feel better about this app in general & I now feel like I can trust it much more. PS while I have sadly several genetic disorders, some are neurobiological (this is the new term for "mental illness"), and when I was your age I made the decision you've made to break that cycle. But I will tell you that now that I'm 42, I desperately want children, & I'm very proud of the fact that I've kept my earlier promise not to have them. How selfish would it be to birth a child who has an 80% chance of suffering like I do, or perhaps worse so. For what it's worth, I admire that you've done the same, for some of the same reasons. Thank you so very much for your reply. Take Care, Liza ❤️
  • Misty

    2014-08-17T22:24:46.817Z

    Great article
  • Linda

    2014-08-18T00:07:23.235Z

    Love this article the whole thing ... Actually this is my FAVORITE app I read it dailey Love Love Love it !!! 👍😀
  • mango

    2014-08-19T08:52:46.728Z

    Nice 👍
  • Zanna

    2014-08-18T03:51:25.667Z

    Very nice! Speaking of pro choice, when I was 9 months pregnant with my 4th child, some actually asked me if I was at all concerned with overpopulation issues. Oh- how heartbroken I was! I had never thought of that, I just loved children and being a mom! I really didn't know what to say. I was so sad that people would think poorly of me. So- let's remember pro choice means we each make our own choice for our own reasons. To each her own!
  • Claudine

    2014-09-05T08:38:49.170Z

    Regarding #3, what if you have fears of religious repercussions? I'm Christian and you are not suppose to have sex until you're married. But in all honesty I wouldn't mind doing it before with the right guy...what should I do? I'm afraid of what could happen...
  • Djamila

    2014-09-06T09:24:23.190Z

    Hmm, that's a tough one Claudine. See, personally I believe God gave us free will, but I know true Christans (which I'm not) see things different than I do. I don't know the circumstances you're in regarding your family for example. For you as an individual I'd say don't restrict yourself to boundaries others lay upon you, so act as your heart and mind tell you to. But I can imagine this could bring some serious trouble for you. I don't know how old you are, but when the timing is right, try raising the subject to your parents. Good luck!
  • Elizabeth

    2014-08-18T06:26:59.633Z

    Thanks! At least someone on the same boat as me
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