Personality clashes in life are inevitable and if you're dealing with this at the moment and don't know what to do, there are some ways to cope. Whether you're at school, college or work, these steps to dealing with a personality clash are sure to help you.
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1. Acceptance
One of the first steps to dealing with a personality clash is to accept that it's inevitable in life. We're not going to get on with everyone all the time and when we dwell on it, it can become more of an issue than it actually is. Accept that we're all different and that we have different ways of seeing the world. It's what makes this world such a magical place!
2. Think It through
When you have accepted that personality clashes are inevitable and it's nothing personal, you can work towards a solution. Think it through and work out why there is a personality clash. Are you both trying to work towards the same goal but have a difference of opinion? Is there something about the way they work that irritates you? Sometimes, the things that irritate us say more about ourselves than they do about the other person!
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3. Stay Calm
It's important to stay calm in the face of a personality clash. Whether that involves taking some time out or breathing deeply, be sure to remain calm and don't lose your cool as this is when more issues will arise. If they say something that irritates you, try to respond calmly rather than snapping back at them.
4. Compromise
Compromise is so important and it's true for both family relationships and work colleagues. Sometimes we need to think about ways we can all be happy. You need to find a way in which you can both work towards the same goal. Think about how you can compromise and use each other's knowledge and expertise to get the job done.
5. Getting to Know You
We're more similar than we think and when we accept that fundamentally, we're all after the same goals in life, it can be easier to work through personality clashes. Getting to know the other person can be one of the best ways to work through a personality clash. Have a coffee or lunch together and get to know each other a little better. You might find that you have more in common that you thought.
6. Team Building
Team building exercises are used in many corporations, colleges and schools to help people learn how to work together in order to achieve a common goal. This can be one of the best ways to deal with a personality clash and although you might not initially be able to cope with being in the same team as that person, you may find that when you're working towards the same goal, you can look past your differences.
7. Let It Go
If we think about something all the time, we can actually make things worse for ourselves. I'm sure you have found yourself going home after a hard day at work or college and ranting to the family about someone you just can't stand to be around. I know I have! What I have learnt though, is that although the venting makes me feel good, there is only one person who ends up feeling bitter and twisted by the anger, and that's me! It's not healthy to carry the hate around and it's much better to accept that we're all different, just let it go and move on.
Has anyone else found themselves swimming in the personality-clash pool? How have you coped with it?
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Corina: I am in this situation everyday. I am in love with my boyfriend that is the literally the Yin to my Yang . Basically everything in this article can benefit both my counterpart and I. We , as sick as this sounds, have heated arguments, almost bi weekly , over the smallest details. We could benefit the most from your first 3 points . Although it is wrong to romanize your spouse, and I'm not saying you shouldn't have a few morale based guidelines that you require in a mate. However you shouldn't expect you lover to be a Prince Charming is , to me,that is a false expectation. The struggle that have I come to find between the two of us is we have two completely different disillusioned view on what " The Man/ Woman " should be. My girl should do X,Y,Z . My Man would do X, Y, Z. One would think acceptance of each other would come easy seeing as were friends first. However as comfortable we are in who we, our vision clashes between the reality of our relationship. In medias res we both glare at each other in utter disgust and disagreement. I can't believe he just said that, and he's baffled at the fact that I'm focusing on that one thing. We cannot detach out self from the denotation and/or connotation from a singular word thrown in a ocean of calculating anguish. To be engulfed between what you know to be true, how you can prove it, managing emotions and expressing emotions effectively, and the fact that word choice alone can alway work against you is a tough enough current to swim threw. Because of how strong both of our personalities are along with how short out tempers can be. We both need to practice stepping away from the situation, considering how both of us are different and how a solution can come about. We both love each other and cause each other pangs when disagreements arise . Thinking it out can reduce the amount of heartache the both of us feel.
Misty: Great advise
Hope4u2: On point!!
Nissey: Will apply this to my situstion😏
Kenza: Interesting
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