There are so many life lessons that people don't tell you about, but which you just have to figure out for yourself as time goes on. Sure, it would be super helpful if someone *could* have told us these things beforehand, but ultimately you're the one who needs to live your life, learn from experiences and know what's important. From one 21 year old to another, here are 10 life lessons all girls should learn by the time they're 21:
1. Some People Are Not Worth Your Time
Sorry if you've heard this one *way* too many times but it just has to be said again. There are some people that you will come across that are simply not worth your time, patience, energy or anything else you can think of. This applies to any and all of the people who have treated you badly or less than you deserve.
2. Spend Plenty of Time with Yourself
This is one of the best ways to become more independent as well as to also get to know yourself a little more. Since we're largely influenced by the people that we surround ourselves with, it's also really important to have time to yourself to balance it out and to fully understand yourself.
3. Be Comfortable with Vulnerability
I'm not saying that you should feel confident being vulnerable or that it's easy, because it's not for many people and that's okay. What I'm saying is that you should take the time to be comfortable with it, which means you're able to speak honestly when you need to and do so without fearing judgement.
4. Lower Your Expectations
It's great to have high expectations for many reasons, but be wary when this applies to other people as this can ultimately lead to disappointment. It's easy to feel let down when others don't meet our expectations, and no one likes to feel disappointed time and time again. If you can, try lowering your expectations when it comes to other people to avoid these negative feelings.
5. Don't Worry about What You Can't Control
There are plenty of things in life that are, and always will be, out of your control. You can spend your whole life trying to change circumstances, or even people, but if it's out of your control then it's very unlikely that your efforts will ever be successful. Plus it's a mentally exhausting experience for many people who constantly try to do this.
6. Understand the Importance of Saving
Five words: save money for your future. You never know what you're going to want to invest in in the coming years or even 10 or 20 years from now, so get into the habit of putting money away for later in life or for when you need it. There's no point blowing all your money now on things that won't help you / get you anywhere later on in life.
7. Live by Your Standards
Despite so many of us having standards, it's all too easy for settle for less than you need, less than you deserve or even just less than you want. It's up to you to remember what your standards are and to apply them to your life to ensure you're getting what you need / deserve / want at the end of the day.
8. Take Responsibility
Responsibility is a major part of growing up and entering adulthood, for sure. It may sound easy to just start being responsible, but it's actually quite difficult for many people to make this transition as they age. Nevertheless, it's important to take responsibility for yourself and everything that comes within this.
9. Look after Yourself
We're not just talking about physically but also mentally, emotionally...spiritually...whatever else you can think of here. Listen to your mind, body and heart when it's talking to you or trying to tell you something. Thinking about what your gut is telling you and following your instincts is a great way to ensure you're looking after yourself as well as actively listening.
10. Your Happiness is Most Important
You're the one who has to live your life every day, so make sure it's a happy one! Do whatever you can to make this happen. You'll be the first to know the second you become unhappy, in which case do what you need to do in order to make it better for yourself. Don't underestimate the importance of your own happiness!