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9 Essential Things You Need to Let Go to Be Happy ...

By Corina

If the biggest dream of your life is to achieve true happiness, you should know that there are a couple of things you need to let go in order to live a happy and fulfilled life. Most times, we are our own worst enemy because we are the ones holding us back and preventing us from enjoying the little things in life. We put limitations on ourselves and often, we don’t even realize it. Let’s make things less complicated and just let go of all those things that cause you pain, suffering and too much stress. Don’t make excuses for your behavior and just do everything in your power to become a happier person. Here are a few essential things you need to let go to be happy.

1 Other People’s Approval

Other People’s ApprovalOne of the most important things you need to let go of in order to live a more prosperous life is other people’s approval. Your purpose in life is not to please other people, but yourself, so try not to think so much what others think or say about your decisions or about your behavior. As long as you are pleased with who you are, then what other people think is none of your business. Don’t let other people’s opinions dictate the way you live your life and don’t give up on your dreams just to please everybody else! Do whatever makes you happy and what you think it’s best for you!

2 Negative Body Image

Negative Body ImageI know how hard it can be sometimes to be happy with who you are and especially with the way you look. Yet, the best way to learn how to be happy is by letting go of that negative body image that makes you feel so insecure and that can lead in time to serious problems like eating disorders or even to affective disorders. There is no such correct or perfect body type. Learn how to feel comfortable in your own skin because health is what matters the most. Beauty comes from within and you shouldn’t let others tell you otherwise!

3 The Idea of a Perfect Partner

The Idea of a Perfect PartnerNobody’s perfect and neither are you, so why would you ask that from somebody else? We all have our flaws and sometimes there’s nothing we can do about it. Don’t let minor things interfere with your happiness and don’t let some unimportant details ruin your relationship. After all, true love is what matters and just like you have to make some concessions; your partner has to compromise too. Bob Marley once said “perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you”. Keep that advice in mind the next time you’re tempted to try to change your loved one to better suit your needs.

4 All Kinds of Excuses

All Kinds of ExcusesI know that sometimes it’s more convenient to find an excuse for your behavior, so you won’t blame yourself for your mistakes. Well, guess what? Sometimes it is your fault and you should take some responsibility for your actions. Don’t limit yourself by always finding excuses for everything wrong that you do. Work on improving yourself, and accept your flaws. The only way you can learn how to become a happier person is by learning from your mistakes and by not making excuses for them.

5 Fears and Insecurities

Fears and InsecuritiesI love this quote by Franklin D. Roosevelt who said: “The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.”. You shouldn’t let anything get in the way of your happiness, especially fear and insecurities. Most of the times, you’ve got nothing to be afraid of, it’s all in your mind and I’m sure you already know this. Also, I do know how difficult it is to control your thoughts and how hard it can be sometimes to fight with all that anxiety you might be experiencing on a daily basis. It’s not impossible though. Just be perseverant and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Don’t let such a thing prevent you from accomplishing your dreams! Be brave; be happy!

6 Procrastination

ProcrastinationI’m sure we’re all guilty of this sin from time to time. I know I am and sometimes this behavior causes me a lot of stress and unhappiness. The truth is that most of the times, things only seem a bit difficult until you actually start doing something, because once you get to work, you often get so caught up with what you are doing that you don’t even realize how the time passes and you end up enjoying that activity By getting things done without procrastinating about them, you’ll be able to feel worry-free and you’ll have more time to do the things you love, thus you’ll feel more happy.

7 Negativity

NegativityThis is another very important thing you need to let go of so you’ll be able to feel more relaxed and joyful. Let go of all that negativity and try to see the glass half full not half empty. It may seem a bit difficult at first, but you’ll see how many benefits thinking in a positive way can bring you. Just think about the good things in your life and soon you’ll realize that you have so much to be grateful for. Remember “Anything is possible in the mind of a positive thinker.”!

8 Your Need to Control Everything

Your Need to Control EverythingSometimes you just have to accept the fact that you simply can’t control certain things and no matter how hard you try to change them to better suit your needs, there’s just nothing you can do about that. So, if your goal is to be happier, then let go of that unhealthy need to control everything in your life and just accept the things you cannot change. I know it’s easier said than done but just like Lao Tzu said: “By letting it go, it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.”.

9 Complaining

ComplainingSometimes the best thing you can do if you want to feel happier is to just avoid feeling sorry for yourself and just let go of that constant need to complain about everything that goes wrong in your life. Sometimes you can be your own worst enemy by focusing only on the negative and by constantly complaining about every single thing. You’ll only feel more miserable and this behavior won’t solve any of your problems, because a situation can make you feel sad only if you allow it to do so.

Being happy is not that hard and you’ll realize that by simply allowing yourself to let go of a couple of things that usually make you feel stressed out and miserable. What do you think are the things we need to let go so we can feel happier and to enjoy life to its fullest? Please share your opinion with us in the comments section!


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