You may be surprised to find out, but there are actually a lot of things you do not need to be happy and to live a healthy and fulfilled life. Abraham Lincoln once said that “Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be” and he couldn’t be more right! The truth is that happiness doesn’t require too much effort on your behalf, we just have to learn to enjoy the little things and to forget everything about the stuff we think we need in order to be happy. I couldn’t agree more with what J.R.R. Tolkien said, and that is “If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world.” Here are a few things you do not need to be happy:
1. Other People’s Approval
In my opinion, one of the things you do not need to be happy is definitely other people’s approval. Don’t ever be afraid of what other people might think or say about you or especially about your actions, because everything you do, you do it for a reason, your reason and you shouldn’t let anyone tell you otherwise. What you think of yourself should be far more important than what others think of you. Remember: it’s your life and you should live it your way!
2. A Stress-Free Life
If you think that you’ll only be happy if you’ll have a stress-free life without any kinds of worries or problems, I must tell you that you are wrong, since such a thing doesn’t exist. Learn to make the best of what you have and start living in the moment! By having a positive attitude, you’ll be able to overcome all the obstacles that you might encounter along the way, without stressing yourself too much about all those little details you cannot change. Just like Marc Chernoff said “Great challenges make life interesting; overcoming them makes life meaningful.”.
3. The Perfect Relationship
A lot of people think that they need to be in a perfect relationship to be happy, or at least to be in a relationship. Well, this just isn’t true. You can be perfectly happy being single, having fun and waiting for that person who will love and cherish you just the way you are (and of course, you would feel the same about them too). Also, every relationship has their ups and downs and you shouldn’t be scared if things seem to be a little bit complicated lately. If you’re facing some problems in your relationship, just try to do something in order to solve them and don’t let them interfere with your happiness!
4. An Ideal past
Don’t dwell on your past just because you think things didn’t turn out the way you had hoped. You don’t need to have an ideal past in order to be happy. Be thankful for what you have and start working on your future! Some things you just can’t control and remember that everyone makes mistakes sometimes. You just need to learn from your errors, so you’ll avoid repeating them in the future. You’ll grow stronger in time and you will find the strength you need to overcome all the obstacles that might appear in your path.
5. A Lot of Money
Of course, money can help you fulfill a lot of dreams, but having a mountain of money won’t guarantee your happiness. There are a lot of things money can’t buy, so remember that you don’t need to be filthy rich in order to live a happy and fulfilled life. I’m not saying you shouldn’t work hard enough to be able to support yourself or provide for your family, just don’t get so busy making a living, that you forget to make a life. “Keep money on your mind but out of your heart.” (Marc Chernoff).
6. To Always Be in Control of Things
In order to be happy and live a healthy and stress-free life, you should learn to give up your constant need to control things. I must confess that I’m guilty of that too and that I really need to understand that things change, people change and sometimes there’s nothing you can do to prevent it. There are things you’ll have to accept just the way they are and once you’ll manage to do that, you won’t be bothered anymore by all the little details that are not the way you want them to be.
7. The Ideal Circumstances
In order to be happy and accomplish all your goals, you don’t need to have the ideal circumstances. Make the best of what you have, be positive and be grateful for everything that you are blessed with. You are one lucky person, you are smart, beautiful and talented and you should never forget that! Just like Marc Chernoff said in an amazing article he wrote for his blog, “The happiest people do not live with a certain set of circumstances, but rather with a certain set of attitudes.”.
8. To Impress Other People
You definitely don’t need to always impress other people in order to be happy. I love this quote by James R. Fisher Jr. who said: “Don’t try to impress others. Let them have the fun of impressing you.”. Let go of that constant need to please everyone else. People love you for the wonderful person that you are and your goal in life shouldn’t be winning their affection or trying to impress them. Don’t spend so much time being focused on other people’s needs and sometimes, just think about your own happiness.
9. All the Things You Don’t Have
You don’t need a lot of things to be happy and certainly you don’t need a bunch of stuff to remind you of that. Happiness is a state of mind and it has nothing to do with the amount of money you have or with the things you own. Just don’t feel miserable because you don’t have enough money right now to buy that dress you adore or those shoes that would be just perfect for your outfit or even that car you desperately need. Don’t let all those somewhat superficial reasons get you down! Learn to enjoy the things you already have and work hard enough to achieve all your goals, but at the same time, don’t forget to be happy and always try to maintain a positive attitude!
There are a lot of things people don’t need to be happy. I just mentioned a few of them and I’m sure there are plenty more that I could add to this list. Can you give me a hand and tell me what other things people don’t really need to be happy? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!