Letting Go of the past ...


Have you ever met someone who seems stuck in the past?

They're obsessed with the wrongs that were done to them, even if it was years ago, and seem incapable of moving on.

Or they think nostalgically of someone they loved and lost.

Indeed, we may all live in the past to some extent.

But since the past is behind us, there's little point in dwelling on it too much.2

If you're finding it hard to let go of the past, here are some tips to help …2

1. It's Gone, and It's Not Coming Back

The past is behind us, and we can't go back there.

Life is a one-way trip, and you can only go forwards.

So however much you think fondly of the past - and memories are very important to us - there's no sense in living there.

Accept that the past has gone, and it's not coming back.

2. It's a Waste of Time

It's really such a waste of time to live in the past.

I knew someone who was very stuck there, always complaining about what had happened in the past and blaming them for everything that had gone wrong in his life.

I fear he'll always be like that, and it's a sad waste of a life.

Enjoying the present is a much better way to spend your life.

We only get one shot at this, so make the most of it.

3. Rose-Tinted Glasses

Nostalgia can be dangerous, since it's not always very accurate.2

When you think of the past, are you remembering it as it really was?

Or is your memory being selective and only giving you a rose-tinted version?

Help yourself to let go by being honest and looking at the past from a more frank perspective.2

4. Regret is Pointless, Looking Forward is Much More Productive

You get absolutely nowhere if you live in the past.2

It's so much more productive if you look forward.

Make the most of the life you're living right now, rather than hanging on to old memories and wishing that you'd done things differently.

You did what you did for a reason, so forgive yourself and move forwards.

Nobody gets it all right.

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