Body shaming is far too common these days. People say things on social media that they wouldn't dream of saying to someone's face! They'll be rude about someone's size or looks, because it's all too easy - and there isn't the same consequences as there would be if they were rude to someone in the same room. So what should you do if you're body shamed?
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1. Everyone's a Critic
The downside of internet access is that everyone's a critic and likes to share their opinion - whether it's wanted or not. And some people are just plain mean. Body shaming is sometimes meant to hurt and sometimes thoughtless, but invariably inappropriate. It's just someone's opinion, and why should you think this stranger is right?
2. Don't Let It Get to You
Don't let the comments of a stranger get to you. You have the power over how you feel. So what if they think you're too fat/thin/old? If they're out to upset you, responding angrily will show that they've succeeded. Instead, just shrug off their comments. Their opinion isn't important to you.
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3. There's Nothing Wrong with You
Chances are that there's absolutely nothing wrong with your looks. Confidence is the most attractive thing. You don't have to conform to anyone's idea of beauty, which is subjective anyway (western cultures value thinness, but there are others that think being heavier is more beautiful).
4. It's Just Words on a Screen
Whenever someone body shames you, remind yourself that it's just words on a screen. If you're really that hurt by what they say, be more cautious about what you post on social media and who you allow to have access to it. If you're posting on an open platform, then anyone can have their say - and that won't always be very nicely worded.
5. Don't Get into an Argument - You Won't Change Anyone
Never get into an argument on social media. You don't have to respond to any attempts to body shame you, and you'll rarely succeed in making anyone realise that they're wrong. Make at most one response and leave it at that. Most online bullies are best ignored, and they'll go away if they see they're not getting the desired response.
6. Post Affirmative Material
Often the best response to body shaming is to post positive material. If you've been told you're overweight, post pictures of yourself looking gorgeous (everybody has some!). Or post an affirmative quote from someone who inspires you. It might just shame the person who's trying to shame you - and it'll help you feel more positive about yourself.
7. If You Want to Change Anything, Change for Yourself
If you do feel there's some truth in what they're saying, think carefully about it. If you want to lose weight, for example, don't do it because someone's been rude about you. Do it because you need to be healthier, not to fit someone else's ideal. Change because you really want to - and because you need to.
Body shaming ignores that we come in different shapes and sizes - and it's also pretty rude. It's not for someone else to criticise your body, and you'll be happier if you accept yourself as you are. Nobody's perfect, so don't try to be. Why do you think people body shame others?
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peony: You know I have issue when they say that men value overweight women in other cultures...big fat lie. Someone know that when a women is confident in herself it is hard to put her down. In countries where heavier women are supposedly sort after usually the man is having a fling with a thinner woman. Yes there are some men who can't resist heavier woman but that isn't a cultural thing it is just personal preference. Just feel good with yourself as a woman.
Autumn: I needed to hear this! The other day someone posted a picture of someone my size. They then said, "No one likes a twig.." I responded to them and I shouldn't have. I know that I'm healthy and that's all that matters. Thank you for sharing! 😄
Megan: @Peony Blue, gracias. I need to work on my own grass instead of constantly checking out the nabes'.
peony: Sorry typos..@megan remember even iggy has an inferiority complex...
peony: @megan hehehe
Megan: Beautiful women come in all shapes & sizes, but I wouldn't complain if I was Iggy or a Victoria's Secret model!
Cindy: A very clever woman once said, " nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission"
peony: @megan remember even if you seems to have an inferiority complex. She won't admit it but she has had her butt done and her breast amongst other things.
Isabella: I don't care for body-shaming comments. I think all girls should have confidence within themselves - accept and love your body no matter what!
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