7 Ways You're Being Too Hard on Yourself and How to Stop ...


We're often our own worst enemy and we can be oh so hard on ourselves. However, we really need to be our best friend because we come into this world alone and we're going to leave it alone too! Making friends with yourself is key. We put so much pressure on ourselves to be a certain way but whose rules are we playing by in this game of life? Here are some of the ways you may be being too hard on yourself.

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Your Weight

One of the ways you might be being too hard on yourself is by constantly agonizing over your weight. If you're trying to lose weight you might have a day where you just have to succumb to the lure of the chocolate sundae. We've all been there. We see it. We want it. We enjoy it. We regret it. Don't be too hard on yourself. and redeem yourself by eating healthily for the rest of the day. And there's that extra half inch you just need to lose or that half a stone that just won't budge. It will go when you stop focusing on it and start living your life.


Your Time

We're so wedded to our watches that we forget just to be in the moment. If you don't achieve everything you need to in a given time then don't be too hard on yourself. You will get everything done. Maybe you need to organize your time a little better or procrastinate a little less. Rather than feeling miserable because you have too much to do and too little time, think about ways you can achieve more in your day.


Your Career

This is one of things that most people are too hard on themselves about. If you're not where you want to be at a certain age then it might be something you focus on and agonize over for years. Remember, what we resist, persists. If you're not where you want to be, don't worry. Let go of the attachment to the end result and you will achieve it eventually by focusing on the here and now.


Your Relationship

Relationships take work, commitment and compromise. If you're not not fully committing to it and you don't have time to do so, don't be too hard on yourself. I believe that there are different things for different stages of our life. If your relationship isn't working, examine the reasons and see if there is anything you can do to save it. Don't feel like a failure if it doesn't work out because it takes two people to make a relationship work.


Your Friendships

As well as relationships, friendships need to be worked at. We can't expect our friends to always be there for us if we're not there for them. Work at your friendships as much as you can but if friends drift away, don't be too hard on yourself. Perhaps they too needed to work at it as much as you but the friendship just ran its course. Learn from the experience and look to the future.


Your Goals

You might have goals and things you want to achieve on your bucket list but don't be too hard on yourself if you're not achieving all of them. Everything will come in its own time. I will never forget a Buddhist monk said to me once that a baby comes in its own time: when it's ready. Our goals and dreams, like babies, will come when they're ready. You can't force them. They will manifest in good time.


Your Family

You may have a fractured relationship with your family or with certain family members but sometimes conflict is inevitable and something we can't move away from. Don't be too hard on yourself if you feel that your family is not as it should be. The Waltons and Brady Bunch were fictional and although we might dream of peace and harmony, it can be difficult to achieve all the time. Accept that friction in families is inevitable and find the peace within yourself to accept the way others are without being hard on yourself or feeling it's your responsibility to keep the peace.

These are just some of the reasons you might be being too hard on yourself. Is anyone guilty of putting too much pressure on themselves?

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@autumn Anne the weight thing is always confusing. When I was young I was teased for being a scrawny runt, now that I'm older and have had 4 kids, people always point out out that I've put on weight! Even though I am older and wiser and still a normal weight, it makes me feel strangely self critical. I think we are just all too hard on ourselves and each other.

Don't assume that people always have trouble with weight loss. There are skinny people in this world and they have to deal with body shaming as well.

Very good article☺️

Totally agree

@Autumn Anne well said! I used to go through a lot of that when i was younger because even though i ate like i'm supposed to, i was always just very skinny. It was something i couldn't really fix or control and i'd always get that i was "anorexic" and whatnot. It's very terrible. So thank you for mentioning the "skinny people" as well :)

Lovely article thanks

So helpful and true. I will remember these.

I keep losing and gained weight 😩😩😩😩😩

hi there i like it

so true!

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