7 Essential Things You Truly Deserve (Even When You Don't Believe It)

By Holly • May 13, 2015 MD

Most women, including you, don't realize just how valuable they are. Even though the rest of the world can see how gorgeous you are, you aren't able to see your beauty when you look in the mirror. However, it's time to stop thinking so poorly of yourself. Here are a few essential things you deserve, even if you don't believe that you do:

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1 You Deserve to Be Happy

It doesn't matter how many horrible things you've done in the past, you deserve to be happy. When you're upset, don't just mope around without trying to change your situation because you think you're entitled to the pain. You aren't. What you're entitled to is a life you're proud of, so do whatever makes you happiest without worrying what others think. If you need inspiration on this journey, focusing on loving your life is a great next step.

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2 You Deserve to Be Loved

Don't break up with your partner because you think they can do better. Don't assume that your crush hates you because no one could ever love someone like you. Don't settle for dating a jerk because you don't think you can get anyone else. You're an amazing person, and you deserve to be loved by someone who respects you fully.

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3 You Deserve to Be Successful

Apply for your dream job. Ask your boss for a promotion. Do whatever you can to reach your goals. If you believe that you're undeserving of success, it will lower your motivation and you'll never get where you want to be in life. The only way to become successful is to realize that you deserve to be successful. Setting clear career goals can help, and resources like LinkedIn Learning are fantastic for building confidence.

| Thing You Deserve | Why It Matters | Small Action Step | | :--- | :--- | :--- | | Self-Love | Foundation of well-being | Write down one win today | | Success | Fulfillment of potential | Update your LinkedIn profile | | Peace | Mental clarity | Practice 5 minutes of breathing |
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4 You Deserve to Be Pampered

Sure, it's a little pricey to go to the spa, but you deserve to be pampered. Get your nails painted, get a massage, or take a mud bath. You've had a tough week, so do whatever will relax you. You deserve to be pampered, so don't hesitate to do something that's meant for you and only you.

| Pampering Idea | Cost Level | Time Required | | :--- | :--- | :--- | | DIY Spa Night | Low | 1-2 Hours | | Professional Massage | High | 1 Hour | | A Quiet Read | Free | 30 Mins |
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5 You Deserve to Indulge in Food

It doesn't matter how big or small you are. Even if you're on a strict diet, you deserve the occasional snack. So stop feeling bad whenever you eat one too many cookies. It's not the end of the world. After all, you deserve to treat your stomach every once in a while.

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6 You Deserve to Buy Material Items

You're not shallow for wanting the newest smartphone or for buying designer jeans that look similar to the kind you could get on sale elsewhere. Even if you're low on cash, you should occasionally splurge on something that will make you smile. The point of earning money is to spend it, after all. So make sure you don't put yourself on such a strict budget that you never buy yourself something special. If you want a quick pick-me-up, pampering yourself doesn't always have to break the bank.

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7 You Deserve to Love Your Life

You can either consider life a rough challenge that will always let you down, or a gift that you're fortunate to have. It's all about how you look at the world. Of course, you deserve to live a life you love, which is why you need to do whatever it takes to make yourself happy. You might not be able to change the world, but you can change your world. Practices like mindful gratitude, recommended by Psychology Today, can significantly shift your perspective.

You're amazing, even if you don't realize it. In the spirit of positivity, what's one special treat that you're going to give yourself this week?

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  • Zahra'a_89

    2015-05-14T07:59:41.876Z

    I just had a haircut and I feel happy. Thank you for the amazing words you wrote. I feel so positive and energetic.
  • Olivia

    2015-05-13T23:06:16.716Z

    Being irresponsible with your money is not going to make you as happy as you ladies think. If you want to reward yourself, go ahead. But don't spend more than you afford.
  • Olivia

    2015-05-13T21:26:54.593Z

    Thank you jennisis!!! That was the only thing on this list that I disagreed with.
  • Splashhhh

    2015-05-14T00:24:18.560Z

    Great ! Article
  • Kate

    2015-05-14T02:45:04.101Z

    I really love articles like this! I really needed to hear something positive today so thank you! :)
  • HeyimJulie

    2015-05-15T05:08:23.818Z

    I'm sensing a couple miserable ladies that don't know how to treat themselves to a mani or cute pair of shoes every now and again... Good grief there's always one (or in this case, multiple!)
  • Miss

    2015-05-13T21:21:20.690Z

    Yes!! Amazing post! #KnowYourWorth
  • Kim

    2015-05-14T01:25:53.092Z

    I don't agree with the 6th point. Don't spend all you earn! Spend some of your money wisely and on items occasionally, ex. a concert, show that you favour or movie.
  • Manisa

    2015-05-15T12:36:58.392Z

    Loved it. It's really inspiring!
  • apple

    2015-05-13T22:18:52.433Z

    What's the point of working so hard to make money if we don't spend at least a little on something we enjoy. You'll just end up a slave to the money working hard and getting resentful. If you don't celebrate your successes you'll become angry, bitter, and discouraged to work for the very money you worked hard to earn.
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