7 Essential Things You Truly Deserve (Even When You Don't Believe It)

By Holly • May 13, 2015 MD

Most women, including you, don't realize just how valuable they are. Even though the rest of the world can see how gorgeous you are, you aren't able to see your beauty when you look in the mirror. However, it's time to stop thinking so poorly of yourself. Here are a few essential things you deserve, even if you don't believe that you do:

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1 You Deserve to Be Happy

It doesn't matter how many horrible things you've done in the past, you deserve to be happy. When you're upset, don't just mope around without trying to change your situation because you think you're entitled to the pain. You aren't. What you're entitled to is a life you're proud of, so do whatever makes you happiest without worrying what others think. If you need inspiration on this journey, focusing on loving your life is a great next step.

2 You Deserve to Be Loved

Don't break up with your partner because you think they can do better. Don't assume that your crush hates you because no one could ever love someone like you. Don't settle for dating a jerk because you don't think you can get anyone else. You're an amazing person, and you deserve to be loved by someone who respects you fully.

3 You Deserve to Be Successful

Apply for your dream job. Ask your boss for a promotion. Do whatever you can to reach your goals. If you believe that you're undeserving of success, it will lower your motivation and you'll never get where you want to be in life. The only way to become successful is to realize that you deserve to be successful. Setting clear career goals can help, and resources like LinkedIn Learning are fantastic for building confidence.

| Thing You Deserve | Why It Matters | Small Action Step | | :--- | :--- | :--- | | Self-Love | Foundation of well-being | Write down one win today | | Success | Fulfillment of potential | Update your LinkedIn profile | | Peace | Mental clarity | Practice 5 minutes of breathing |

4 You Deserve to Be Pampered

Sure, it's a little pricey to go to the spa, but you deserve to be pampered. Get your nails painted, get a massage, or take a mud bath. You've had a tough week, so do whatever will relax you. You deserve to be pampered, so don't hesitate to do something that's meant for you and only you.

| Pampering Idea | Cost Level | Time Required | | :--- | :--- | :--- | | DIY Spa Night | Low | 1-2 Hours | | Professional Massage | High | 1 Hour | | A Quiet Read | Free | 30 Mins |

Embrace the vibrant colors and cozy vibes of the upcoming season with your loved ones. Planning for some memorable fall family photos is a unique way to capture the warmth and love amidst the breathtaking autumnal hues. Trust me, these keepsakes would be beyond beautiful.

5 You Deserve to Indulge in Food

It doesn't matter how big or small you are. Even if you're on a strict diet, you deserve the occasional snack. So stop feeling bad whenever you eat one too many cookies. It's not the end of the world. After all, you deserve to treat your stomach every once in a while.

6 You Deserve to Buy Material Items

You're not shallow for wanting the newest smartphone or for buying designer jeans that look similar to the kind you could get on sale elsewhere. Even if you're low on cash, you should occasionally splurge on something that will make you smile. The point of earning money is to spend it, after all. So make sure you don't put yourself on such a strict budget that you never buy yourself something special. If you want a quick pick-me-up, pampering yourself doesn't always have to break the bank.

7 You Deserve to Love Your Life

You can either consider life a rough challenge that will always let you down, or a gift that you're fortunate to have. It's all about how you look at the world. Of course, you deserve to live a life you love, which is why you need to do whatever it takes to make yourself happy. You might not be able to change the world, but you can change your world. Practices like mindful gratitude, recommended by Psychology Today, can significantly shift your perspective.

You're amazing, even if you don't realize it. In the spirit of positivity, what's one special treat that you're going to give yourself this week?

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  • Kim

    2015-05-14T01:25:53.092Z

    I don't agree with the 6th point. Don't spend all you earn! Spend some of your money wisely and on items occasionally, ex. a concert, show that you favour or movie.
  • Tamara

    2015-05-14T01:25:29.368Z

    I really needed to hear this today. I'm glad that I read it. I also shared the advice with some of my colleagues. Some of us are financially responsible but sometimes we get too carried away. The money we worked so hard to earn can also be used to make us happy. You are not neglecting your obligations. Of course not! You are simply valuing and rewarding yourself for a job well done. I think you would be glad you did it.
  • Chetna

    2015-05-13T22:40:44.317Z

    Thanku Apple. I totally agree with you!!
  • Kailee

    2015-05-14T10:42:12.851Z

    LOL, this iOS device has a mind of it's own, NOT saddles, SANDLES!!! xo
  • Megan

    2015-07-07T11:20:37.266Z

    Thank you to the author for saying such kind-hearted things! Especially number one.
  • Beryl

    2015-05-13T23:46:39.057Z

    How about a longer "me" time ? You can enjoy a longer bath,a do it yourself minute,extra hour of reading or just sit back in the sun,relax and just listen to music. Doesn't actually have to cost money to relax and enjoy life and is " deserve" really the word? Maybe " need" or reward " .
  • Monté

    2015-05-13T23:40:05.308Z

    That just motivated me even more to go after my dreams (: that article really had me thinking
  • Manisa

    2015-05-15T12:36:58.392Z

    Loved it. It's really inspiring!
  • Kitty

    2015-05-13T23:49:12.335Z

    I really needed this today, thanks so much! :D
  • Autzy

    2015-05-14T07:17:42.982Z

    This made me feel positive!!
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