Having good friends is an incredibly important part of life, there is no getting around that fact. Your best friends can get you through even the worst of times, and they are there to celebrate the best of times with you, but something important to remember is that they aren’t the be all and end all of complete happiness. As RuPaul says, if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are going to love anybody else? Here are some pointers on how to be your own best friend.
1. Be Mindful of Your Feelings
Sometimes it can be very easy to just push your own feelings deep down inside in favor if not wanting to rock the boat with your friends or family, but it is important for you to be able to truly express yourself. Keep in tune with your real feelings and never give in to the temptation to just push them aside because they are just as, if not more, important than any feelings of others than you might be trying to save.
2. Accept Flaws
Are you the kind of person who beats yourself up when you get something wrong, or when you don’t quite meet the standards that you expect of yourself? This isn’t super healthy, and the only way that you can really be a good friend to yourself is to accept and embrace your flaws and accept that there are times when things aren’t going to be absolutely perfect.
3. Self Kindness
Never forget to treat yourself with kindness, because you should treat yourself the way that you would like others to treat you. When you are kind to yourself and you have high self-esteem, then the little voice inside your head is always going to be one that is in support of you rather than against you.
4. Silver Lining
Whenever something happens in your life that isn’t ideal, you should work on always trying to find the silver lining in each dark cloud. This will breed an attitude of positivity that will penetrate into every level of your personality, and you will find that automatically looking towards the positive rather than the negative can help you to be a much better friend to yourself.
5. Vocalize Feelings
Don’t be afraid to talk to yourself when you need to vocalize your feelings and emotions. When something hurts, express that it hurts, when something is stressful, express that it is stressful. When you vocalize these things, it gets you into the habit of asking for help when you need it, and that is one of the best things that you can do for yourself.