There are a lot of reasons why people's approval shouldn’t matter to you! I will just mention a few in this little article, the most obvious ones, in my opinion. I love this very inspiring quote by Vernon Howard that I found while I did my research: “A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.” That is absolutely true; you shouldn’t let what other people think prevent you from living a fun and adventurous life. Don’t sabotage your happiness by caring more about what someone else wants! Live your life the way you want to live it without constantly trying to please everyone else around you. Here are a few very good reasons why people’s approval shouldn’t matter to you:
1. It’s Your Life
In my opinion, one of the most important reasons why people’s approval shouldn’t matter to you is precisely the fact that it’s your life and not theirs. You should be able to do whatever you want in order for you to be happy, so you will have nothing to regret later. There will always be people who disagree with you no matter what you do, so make your own choices and assume responsibility for your actions. They should have other things to worry about and you can even remind them that from time to time in an assertive manner.
2. You Know What’s Best for You
They can’t possibly know what’s best for you! Even if they are very empathetic and they try to put themselves in your shoes, you will always be the only one who knows what you want and what will make you happy. Even if you are wrong and you make some mistakes along the way, you will at least learn from them (or at least, you should), so you won’t repeat them in the future. Learn to take responsibility for your actions and make your own choices, no matter what other people think!
3. You Don’t Need Everyone’s Approval to Be Happy
You actually don’t need everyone’s approval to be happy. Okay, so it’s nice to feel admired and be praised by everyone around you, but you shouldn’t let that get to your head and turn it into the only thing that will guarantee your happiness. You can’t control anyone’s thoughts and you will always meet people who will not like you without a particular reason, no matter how hard you try to please them. Just because some people might not agree with us, that doesn’t mean that it’s something wrong with us or that we’re not worthy of their love and appreciation. What other people think should not matter to you if you want to learn how to live a healthier and happier life.
4. You Can’t Control Other People’s Thoughts
You just simply can’t control what other people think of you, no matter how hard you try. In fact, you might never know what others truly think of you since they might not be as honest as you think they are. We all see things from our own perspective and we are all different, so we cannot always agree with each other. Learn to accept that and don’t try so hard to please everyone around you, because even if you manage to do it, you still don’t know if you really made them happy or not. Try not to waste your time by always wondering what other people think or say about you and live your life the way you want to live it.
5. Trust Your Ability to Make Decisions
Learn how to trust more your ability to make decisions! Trust your instinct and believe in your own judgment! After all, you are the one who knows what’s best for you. So, try not to seek other people’s approval because the more you will do it, the less you will trust your own abilities and the less confidence you will have in yourself. Don’t rely on other people to make choices for you because you are the one stuck with the end result and not them, so if you have something to regret later it should be your own decisions and not other people’s.
6. Others Don’t Care as Much as You Think
The truth is that people don’t really care about what you do as much as you think. We all have our own problems and worries, so chances are people don’t really care as much about your actions as they say they do. You can take that energy you waste in pleasing everyone around you and put it into your work and goals and you could try to to fulfill all your dreams instead. I’m sure you all know that famous saying that “The people who mind don’t matter and the people who matter don’t mind.” so try not to waste your time and energy by trying to be liked by everyone because you are probably not as important to them as you think you are. .
7. What People Think of You is None of Your Business
Maybe you are a bit surprised to find out but what people think of you should be none of your business. The more you care about other people’s approval, the less trust you will have in yourself and the lower your self-esteem will be. So, the more you care about their opinion, the more it will affect you and especially your decisions. People are free to think whatever they want and that shouldn’t concern you.
Albert Einstein once said that “Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocre minds. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence.” and he couldn’t be more right! Do you usually care about what other people think? Why do you think you do it? Do you know any other good reasons why people’s approval shouldn’t matter to you? Please let us know what you think in the comments section!