There are many reasons to put yourself first. When you first begin to think on this concept, it can sound and feel really selfish. I think one reason for that is that many of us have become so accustomed to doing for others that we forget about ourselves. Doing for others is a wonderful thing, but there are many reasons to put yourself first.
1. Only You Know What You Need
The truth is, only you know what you really need. This is one of the best reasons to put yourself first. No one can meet your needs like you can because only you truly know what you need. You are most in touch with what you think and what you feel. Sometimes it is best to just meet your own needs rather than sit around hoping someone else will notice them.
2. You Will Have More to Give
When you put yourself first, you will find that you actually have more to give. When you are depleted of everything physically, mentally, emotionally and every other way, you should not be surprised that you have nothing left to give to others. You have to take care of yourself so you can take care of others. Most giving people know how to meet their own needs. Think of the most giving person you know and see if this doesn’t hold true.
3. You Will Be a Better You
When you take care to meet your own needs, you are going to be a better you. You are going to be much more pleasant to be around. Someone who is completely exhausted and empty in every way is not a fun person to be with. Actually, taking care of yourself is one of the kindest things that you can do. It will make you a much better person.
4. It Sets a Good Example
You know, I always think about how taking care of yourself sets an example for others. For me, I especially want to consider this in light of setting the right example for my daughter. I know that as a wife and a mother, life can pull at you and drain you if you are not careful. You have to be careful to replenish yourself so you can be the best in the roles you have. When you take care of yourself, you set a good example for others.
5. You Will Feel Better
Not taking care of yourself and not making your own needs a priority makes you feel terrible. You find that you feel physically tired and overworked, you are mentally drained and you are just unhappy. Your needs matter as much as anyone else’s matter. Taking care of your needs will make you feel better in so many ways. And who doesn’t want to feel better?
6. You Will Be More Productive
When you are depleted of all of your energy, how can you expect to be productive? I don’t know about you but I cannot be productive if I am feeling overextended, overwhelmed and exhausted. I need to have had a good night’s sleep, good nutrition, exercise and my spiritual needs met before I can be my most productive. I have learned the hard way that it is better to take the time to take care of my needs rather than to try to push through and be productive without taking care of myself. That never works out well.
7. You Are Your Best Advocate
No one really knows your needs but you. You can explain to your spouse or family that you need a night out with your friends but chances are no one is going to rise up and make that work out for you. You have to be your own advocate here. Realize what you need and make it happen. Others can make it on their own long enough for you to take care of yourself.
It is difficult putting yourself first at times but totally necessary. What are some things you do to put yourself first? Please share!