Here's the Secret ๐Ÿค to Taming Your Inner Mean Girl ๐Ÿ’ ...

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Every woman has an inner mean girl, I think.

Granted, some of us are better at controlling her than others, but I truly believe that there's a mean girl hiding inside all of us.

I have one.

I call her Bitch Puddin' and 90 percent of the time, she has control of my personality.

My friends like her more than me.

Bitch Puddin' tries not to be cruel, however, because I have tamed her over the years.

I haven't eliminated her because I kind of really like her, but she's definitely not as vile as she used to be.3

If you want to get a handle on your inner mean girl, here's the secret.

1. So, You're Gonna Need a Journal

So, You're Gonna Need a Journal

You are going to be writing down a lot of stuff.

You need a place to vent, for one thing.

You also need a place to spill all the judgment and vitriol that usually comes flowing out of your inner mean girl.

Taming her is hard and you might not want to get rid of her completely.2

You can give her an outlet, though, a place where she can get rid of all her meanness โ€“ that's better than serving it up to the object of her snark, right?

2. Remind Yourself to Love, Not to Push Fear

Remind Yourself to Love, Not to Push Fear

Inner mean girls who are genuinely, unequivocally mean โ€“ who judge for the fun of it and indulge in cruelty โ€“ do so because they're projecting their own insecurities โ€ฆ which means that you have to deal with your insecurities.

This behavior often comes from a place of fear, so remember to embrace love.

Don't be a fear pusher.

3. Express Gratitude Every Single Day

Express Gratitude Every Single Day

This sounds cheesy.

At first, it will probably feel cheesy, too.

You'll get used to it, though.

It's worth getting used to because day by day, you'll find more gratitude.

You'll have more blessings, more things to be grateful about, and more things that bring you genuine joy and happiness.

Those things are all kryptonite to inner mean girls.

Express Love Wherever You Can
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