If you're sick of being pushed around, there are ways to stop getting walked over. You don't deserve to be treated poorly by a boyfriend, friend, or family member. You're a valuable human being that deserves just as much respect as everyone around you does. If you're having trouble standing up for yourself, here are a few simple ways to stop getting walked over:
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1. Learn to Say "No"
If you say 'yes' every single time someone asks you to do them a favor, they're going to expect you to always obey their orders. If you don't have time to help out a friend, then it's okay to say no. Real friends won't punish you for turning them down for a legitimate reason. One of the best ways to stop getting walked over is to remember that you're not obligated to do anything for anyone. You get to decide whether or not you want to help them out, which means you can always say 'no.'
2. Follow through
If you want your friends to know that you're not interested in seeing a certain movie, say it sternly. Don't laugh and don't back down if they try to convince you to change your mind. If you want to stop getting walked over, then you need to learn to be assertive.
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3. Know What You Deserve
If you think that your opinions and thoughts are worthless, then you're never going to find the strength to stick up for yourself. You need to realize that you're a valuable person who deserves to be listened to. You won't be able to act assertively until you truly believe that you matter.
4. Find New Friends
If you do whatever you can to stop being walked on, but your friends continue to treat you poorly, then you need new friends that respect you. Don't surround yourself with people who only want you around so that you'll do them favors and listen to whatever they say. Find people who want you around in order to have pleasant conversation and just have fun.
5. Not Everyone Will like You
You can't be scared about others getting mad at you. Not everyone is going to like you, so you shouldn't try to please everyone. The only person you're in charge of making happy is yourself, so stop caring about other's opinions.
6. Create Confidence
When you're confident, it'll be much easier to avoid getting walked on. You need to learn to speak loudly and clearly, and to stand tall with your shoulders back. The more confident you sound and look, the easier it'll be for others to take you seriously. Even if you don't actually feel confident, you need to fake it until you make it.
7. Voice Opinions
The biggest way to avoid getting walked on is to be honest. It's as simple as that. If you don't like something that your friend does, tell her. If you want to go home and sleep instead of driving everyone to a party, tell them. All you have to do is tell the truth.
It's never fun to be walked on by your friends and family, because you deserve to be treated as an equal. Are you an assertive person or do you need to learn to stick up for yourself?
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Isabella: My sister's a real drama queen and walks all over me in practically every conversation - I dunno when she turned into such a cranky woman!! I think I prefer not talking to her, she's like a brick wall 90% of the time
Sumer: Nathalie I'm the same way. I treat people nice hoping to revive the same treatment and that they would like me in return but I can't seem to stop. I was raised with being nice to everyone and I can't stop. I can't even think of someone not liking me. And I realize now in my situation how many times I've been burned by another person that I have been nothing but nice to. I still don't understand some people
nathalie: I'm a real people pleaser, not because I want attention, because I treat people how I want to be treated, and as a result, I have never really been shown the same courtesy. Now at 36 u have finally realised to keep myself to myself and just please myself, without hurting anyone, it upset me at first to cut back, but I'm happier and less worried and hurt so easily these days...
nathalie: Bless you Sumer, as long as you are you, and your not hurting anyone, you can't do anymore than that, just be a my peace that you have been the best you can be xxx
Star: Great article. Really could use this.
Farah: This is really helpful.
Sarah: Really needed this tough love :) I sooo need to be more assertive and stand up for myself
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