7 Things You Think Will Make You Happy But Might Not

Winning the Lottery • Growing Older • Perfect Looks • Instant Fame • A Dream Partner • More ...

By Holly • Feb 26, 2014 MD

There are plenty of things you assume will lead to instant happiness, but they won't necessarily alter your life for the better. It is easy to romanticize these scenarios, but remind yourself that things that seem 'too good to be true' usually are. To cultivate genuine contentment, consider these seven things you think will make you happy, but might not.

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1. Winning the Lottery

We all dream of financial freedom, like the idea of never having to work again or having someone else manage our chores. However, winning a massive sum of money is not the cure-all you might imagine. While you could initially spend your days enjoying leisure time with friends, endless free time can sometimes lead to stagnation. Building a meaningful life often comes from work that challenges us, keeps us focused, and gives us purpose. Finding that balance between finding your passion and maintaining stability is key to happiness.

2. Growing Older

We often get caught in the cycle of living for the future. Instead of appreciating where we are, we daydream about how much better life will be once we hit a certain milestone. Whether it is wanting to be a teenager or a full-grown adult, living constantly in the future prevents you from being happy in the present. Try to ground yourself in today and handle whatever tomorrow brings when it arrives.

3. Perfect Looks

We all have imperfections, and that is perfectly okay. If you had an idealized look, it might be difficult to know who values your personality versus who values your appearance. Furthermore, embracing your unique traits is what makes you human. Learning to cultivate self-love can do much more for your joy than striving for an impossible standard of perfection.

4. Instant Fame

Many people dream of being a famous performer or artist. While those professions can be rewarding, the reality of fame has significant drawbacks. Those quiet days when you just want to relax at home in comfortable clothing would become a memory of the past. Constant public scrutiny can be exhausting, and losing your privacy is a price many aren't prepared to pay.

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5. A Dream Partner

You might think that having the perfect romantic partner will solve all your problems, but true happiness comes from within. A relationship is an addition to your life, not the sole foundation for your happiness. If you aren't content on your own, it is difficult to maintain a healthy dynamic with anyone else.

6. Relocating to a New City

Moving to a glamorous city often feels like the ultimate fresh start. While a change of scenery can be exciting, it rarely fixes the internal issues you carry with you. Whether you move to New York, London, or a quiet countryside town, you are still you. Investing in your own well-being is more effective than searching for it in a zip code.

7. Buying More Stuff

We are conditioned to believe that the next purchase—a new outfit, the latest phone, or trendy decor—will provide a dopamine hit that lasts. However, material things offer only temporary pleasure. Once the excitement of a new item fades, you are back to where you started. True happiness is found in experiences, connections, and personal growth, rather than the objects you own.

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  • Madeleine

    2014-02-26T23:33:54.565Z

    I would want to fluent in Chinese, Spanish, French, German, Russian, Hebrew, and Latin. To know all those without a second of study I would be sooooo happy!
  • jessica

    2014-02-27T00:58:58.232Z

    I would really like a friend. I have a boyfriend, sisters. but thats it.
  • Starbuvana

    2014-02-26T18:16:14.943Z

    I love this article, especially #3! I totally agree with it!
  • Sunny

    2014-02-26T19:38:27.598Z

    Can't really say unless you have them. Wishful thinking hurts though.
  • Kat

    2014-02-26T18:59:56.125Z

    Well you could always win the lottery and still go to work, just with a different purpose :p Winning the lotto would make everyone happy lol but considering the chances I don't spend money on the gamble. Still though I would have to disagree with that one. I agree that wishing to change the past or your appearances won't really make you happy.
  • Hannah

    2014-02-26T21:50:51.683Z

    Skinniness as well. Too many people think if they're skinny they will be happy, but are sadly mistaken.
  • DarkeAngel

    2014-02-26T20:38:57.120Z

    I would love to win the lottery, I would then be able to go to school without getting anymore loans and I won't have to worry about paying for rent or get a job all I would have to do is go to school and I'm 23 so that would be great
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