Sometimes when we fail to reach our goals or the success we want it’s because we aren’t helping ourselves. We might have good intentions but either unconsciously or unwittingly, some of the things we think or do simply don’t help us move forward. If you stop doing these things that are holding you back success will be both sooner and easier.
1 Don’t Pretend
Stop pretending to friends and family like everything is completely fine if it isn’t: don’t be afraid to show your loved ones that you need help.
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2 Stop Complaining
Complaining too much can be toxic. Most people who spend their time complaining will never actually move to the next level of trying to sort out their situation.
3 Don’t Be Idle
Don’t sit and let your unhappiness or problematic situation come to define you. Be proactive and make the effort to change your circumstances.
4 Don’t Always Take the Easy Road
Stop taking the easy road because it is the path that might bring you less confrontation. If what you really want is something more, then face up to the hard road and accept the challenge.
5 Stop Pleasing Others
Pretending to someone else to fit in with a situation is something that can be very tiring and unhealthy. Be yourself and move forward in a more authentic way.
6 Don’t Stay in a Bad Relationship
Don’t continue with a bad relationship just because you think it is the done thing to have partner in your mid or late twenties. Do what’s best for you and only you.
7 Don’t Hold onto the past
There has to come a time when you stop beating yourself for silly mistakes made in your past. Just look forward and forget what has come before.
8 Stop Avoiding
The only way to solve a problem is to confront it face to face, so don’t waste your life hiding from things that can be fixed with a little focus.
9 Just Stop … Sometimes
Stop what you are doing and take a breath to evaluate your situation. Even the shortest break can give you a whole new perspective.
10 Don’t Be Jealous
Don’t sit around being envious of others who have achieved their goals. The only way to match them is to start working towards your own.
11 Don’t Let Your Baggage Control You
Don’t let the baggage from a previous relationship stop you from entering in to a new one; it’s a completely different set of circumstances and it’s unfair to link them together.
12 Don’t Hold Grudges
Holding a grudge basically admits that you are still stuck in the past. You need to let it go and move forward with a clean slate.
13 Stop Explaining Yourself
Doing what your heart tells you to is the most important thing. You don’t need to continually explain yourself to those around you.
14 Stop Picking the Wrong Friends
Life is too short to be surrounding yourself with people who don’t support you. Make sure your group of friends is one that will help you to love yourself.
15 Stop Missing the Small Moments
In attempting to reach a big life goal, we can sometimes forget all of the smaller moments that make up the basis of our lives. Make sure you are not absent in your own life.
16 Quit Worrying
It is a futile practice to worry about things that are completely out of your control; it only serves to add more stress and pressure to your life.
17 Stop Trying to Be a Perfectionist
Trying to live a mistake free life is almost impossible. Just realize that it is okay and absolutely human to be wrong sometimes; don’t let it get you down.
18 Stop Competing
Stop trying to measure you own success by competing with others. This kind of competition is unnecessary and can set you up for feelings of failure.
19 Don’t Lie to Yourself
If you are unhappy, don’t lie to yourself and pretend that you are. Once you can personally accept your own circumstances, you might be able to work towards changing them.
20 Don’t Rely on Others
Relying on others to bring you happiness is always a dangerous and unpredictable way to live. The key to true contentment is finding happiness within yourself.
21 Stop Thinking You're Not Ready
This attitude won't take you even a small step forward. Of course you are ready. You just need to believe it.
