Why It's Okay to Be Broken: 7 Reasons Cracks Make You Stronger

By Crystal • Nov 5, 2014 MD

When it feels like your heart is in a million pieces, it's hard to find reasons why it's ok to be broken. From sudden breakups to losing a loved one, it sometimes feels like we're shattered and may never be whole again. Trying to be strong when you're broken takes immense energy, but after some deep soul searching, I discovered that it's okay not to be okay when everything is broken. In fact, in most cases, being broken is actually the start of becoming better and stronger.

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1. Changes Your Path

Any time we experience a major bump in the road, we tend to veer off from our current path. To me, this is one of my favorite reasons why it's ok to be broken. Each crack we get sets us down a different road. Maybe a long-term relationship ended, but that detour eventually led you to finding a partner who truly appreciates you. Maybe you lost a job, which forced you to discover a brand-new career path. It often takes a break to send us down the right direction in life. Research from the American Psychological Association shows that life disruptions frequently trigger profound personal growth and unexpected new opportunities.

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2. Re-sculpts Who You Are

Think of yourself as a lump of clay ready to be sculpted into something beautiful. Sculptors rarely get it right on the first attempt. With each break you experience, you're changed just a little. You might notice yourself becoming stronger, more compassionate, and far wiser. The people we admire most became who they are precisely because they went through hardship. Take that emotional pain and turn it into a tool for learning valuable lessons to re-sculpt yourself into the person you want to be.

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As a sculptor persistently molds their work, adding texture and depth with every touch, let your experiences, including your heartaches, mold you. Like clay under the artisan's fingers, your heartbreaks are an opportunity to shape your determination, resilience, and empathy. Imagine each setback not just as a challenge, but as a chance to redefine the contours of your character, smoothing out the rough patches, and revealing a more refined version of yourself. Embrace this transformative process; it is through the cracks that your true strength shines, crafting a masterpiece of self that proudly displays the journey it has endured.

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3. Teaches Valuable Lessons

School is great for teaching us useful skills, but every time we get broken we learn essential lessons about how to live. For instance, remember your first real regret? What did it teach you? I learned never to let a meaningful opportunity pass me by. You will get hurt in life, but let the cracks and broken pieces serve as valuable milestones for your personal development.

Here are a few quick takeaways that hard times teach us:

  • Resilience in the face of uncertainty
  • Deeper empathy for others going through struggles
  • Clarity on personal boundaries and priorities
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4. Helps You Handle Pain

Wouldn't it be great if there was an aspirin we could take to clear away all emotional pain? I know there have been times I would've gladly taken that magic pill. Health resources like Mayo Clinic emphasize that building emotional resilience takes time and practice. People who have been broken and bounced back are much better equipped for putting life into perspective when future challenges arise. Instead of growing weaker, every little crack builds emotional strength. Yes, it will still hurt, but you will recover faster and stronger.

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5. Forces You to Take the Wheel

We might lean on friends and family when we feel broken, but in the end, what we do next is entirely up to us. It can feel daunting when you're navigating a tough moment, but when you're ready, you have to make the choices that shape your future. You have to take control of your own life. No one else can do it for you. That extra push forces you to take charge and start living life on your own terms.

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Surely, embracing this responsibility can be the most empowering step forward. Think of it as the ultimate act of self-love. Facing your brokenness, you decide to mend and redefine your life. You craft a narrative that honors your resilience, your strength. It is in these moments, through the hardest times, that you sculpt your character. It's the perfect time to discover true passions and purpose that perhaps were overshadowed. Take this unique opportunity to rebuild—not as you were, but as you aspire to be.

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6. Puts Life into Perspective

At first, the cause of your cracks can overshadow everything else. But when you step back and look at the bigger picture, you start to see what truly matters. Was failing an exam or going through a breakup really the end of the world? No. You realize that continuing to live, adapt, and grow is what matters most. You start to rearrange your focus and stop letting every minor setback prevent you from living fully. Expert articles on Psychology Today highlight how reframing life's obstacles helps restore clarity and mental well-being.

Consider how embracing these moments shifts your daily outlook:

| Old Perspective | Reframed Perspective | | --- | --- | | Brokenness means failure | Brokenness is a rebuilding phase | | Setbacks hold me back | Setbacks redirect me to better paths | | Hiding vulnerability | Building strength through authenticity |
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7. Proves Imperfection is Beautiful

Sometimes we get so focused on being perfect that the smallest mistake completely shatters us. It's not until you look in the mirror that you realize you're still standing and still okay. So what if you discovered you're not perfect? No one is. The most inspiring people are those who have known defeat and rebuilt themselves. With every break, more of your genuine self shines through. Think of those cracks as your inner beauty and strength coming to the surface.

No one wants to feel broken, but it is something we can embrace as part of our journey. Be proud of yourself for standing tall after everything you've been through. It's ok to be broken because it helps make you who you are today. What has being broken taught you about your own strength?

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  • Temmie

    2014-11-06T13:58:09.402Z

    Romans 5 vs 4-5
  • Audrey

    2014-11-06T16:54:11.818Z

    Love it!!!
  • Trinityistruth

    2014-11-06T11:12:43.750Z

    This is a beautiful article. I have been broken in just about every area of my life, from losing my parents, losing my job, a cheating husband, etc. However, although I was hurt in each of these instances, I became stronger. Yes I cried, but then I'd pray. I can give credit to my strong faith in GOD.
  • Kim

    2014-11-08T10:15:53.998Z

    Broken in: friendship (adult life), living with parents, location, not knowing a clear path
  • Midnight

    2014-11-06T10:48:31.190Z

    Wow, this is good timing considering the latest Cumberbatch news (he's engaged for those not in the know!)
  • Janelle

    2014-11-10T11:55:32.414Z

    Thank you..💜
  • Nicky

    2014-11-06T14:11:30.130Z

    Beautiful so beautiful. This is what people need to know that even though there not perfect there still good just the way they are and over time as they grow in experience they will become only better. I love the reassurance of that because it encourages all those that feel like they can't
  • TheMisshoney69

    2014-11-06T10:14:35.528Z

    I've been broken many times but so far am still trying to believe and be positive in the future .. Very hard tho but eventually ( even tho I'm 46 ) I hope for my happy ending
  • Jenn

    2014-11-29T20:40:33.838Z

    The most beautiful quote that always helps me is "you don't know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have!!" I've lived by this credo since I was 10 years old, unfortunately, but I've been told all my life, I'm the strongest woman most ppl have ever met!
  • Tiashuntae

    2015-03-19T12:46:17.988Z

    Wow. Quite interesting.
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