Being from the South, manners have been genetically instilled in me since birth. Don’t get me wrong, all Southerners do not have manners, but manners are still pretty much prized as being the ultimate quality to have, especially for a woman, around here. Certain manners can enhance your relationships, help you meet people, snag a new job you want, maintain a good professional demeanor, help you meet a man, make you more generous, keep you humble, and enhance your social skills. Read on to find my 7 favorites and do share yours with me, pretty please!
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1. Always Offer a Handshake
In the germophobic world we live in, no one seems to want to shake hands anymore, but offering your handshake is one of the most important manners every girl should have. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve met someone new and they seem a little hesitant towards me, or shy. I immediately offer my hand out to them and tell them how glad I am to meet them. This breaks down a barrier between you and strangers, and lets them know you’re friendly. It also loosens you up and makes it easier to meet others each time you do it. If someone refuses to shake your hand, don’t take it personally. They simply might have a germ issue, and in that case, just put down your hand and give them a smile. This manner is especially important on a job interview, where I always offer a handshake to the person interviewing me. It suggests confidence, which is priceless in the work field.
2. Always Say Ma’am or Sir
I don’t care if someone is the same age as you or not, or even if they are younger. Anyone who is your employer, teacher, leader, mentor, co-worker, etc. should be called ma’am and sir out of respect. Trust me, they’ll probably tell you that you don’t have to call them that, but it still implies you are kind, respectful and courteous. Just say it and thank me later.
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3. Always Say Please and Thank You
Most girls know this is a manner that we need to have, but it still has to be said. Saying please when requesting something and thank you upon receiving anything, even if it is just an answer to a question, is crucial to having manners. Do this with anyone, not just someone above you.
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Good manners are an essential part of being a lady. Saying please and thank you is a fundamental way to show respect and gratitude for someone’s efforts. It is important to remember to do this with everyone, not just those in positions of authority. Good manners also include being polite, kind, and courteous to all people, regardless of their age, gender, or social status. Additionally, it is important to always be on time, to never interrupt someone when they are speaking, and to always be respectful of other people’s opinions and beliefs. Finally, it is important to always be mindful of your own behavior and to always be a positive influence on those around you.
4. Open Doors for Others
Unless you’re on a date, it is a great idea to open doors for other people when out in public. Never open your date’s door for him though, that’s his job! Opening doors for other people signals that you’re courteous, kind and aware of others. It is also one of the best hospitality gestures you can offer others. You don't have to be the bellhop and hold it open for everyone; one person will do!
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The simple act of holding the door can leave a lasting impression. It's about being attentive and showing respect, a small but powerful gesture that upholds the thread of civility in our fast-paced society. Whether it's at a cafe, a store, or entering the office building, take that fleeting moment to pause and extend this kindness. You never know how much a little act of courtesy might brighten someone's day - just remember, it's the thoughtfulness that counts, not grandstanding.
5. Smile
One overlooked manner every girl should have is to smile. Smile at strangers, school mates, and co-workers whenever you get the chance. A simple smile and “Hey, how are you?” will get you further along in developing relationships, meeting people, maintaining a good work relationship, and generally make you seem happier and easier to talk to. Plus, a smile is the prettiest thing you could ever wear!
6. Sit like a Lady
This might sound old fashioned, but it's true! When you’re out in public at an event or on a date, cross your legs, or at least your ankles. Don’t slouch in your chair with your legs hanging out in front of you, but instead, sit up straight and maintain a good ladylike position. You don't need to look stiff like you're at a tea party, but simply sit up tall with good posture and gently crossed legs or ankles. This manner will help you seem professional, feminine, graceful and classy.
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Good posture is one of the most important manners that every girl should have. Sitting with your back straight and shoulders back will show confidence, poise, and grace. When sitting in public, it is important to cross your legs or ankles and avoid slouching in your chair. This manner will help you appear professional, feminine, graceful, and classy. Additionally, it is important to remember to always keep your elbows off the table and maintain good eye contact when talking to someone. Furthermore, it is important to remember to always be kind and courteous to those around you. Manners are a reflection of your character and it is important to always maintain them.
7. Don’t Curse
For the love of being a lady, stop cursing! Unless you’re at home alone and just broke that glass dish your mom gave you for Christmas, of course! Then it’s okay since you’re alone! Seriously though, don’t make a habit of cursing, especially around guys. They want to date someone who is a lady, not a potty mouth. Cursing is also a big no no on the job. Employers don’t want their employees having bad language or it might influence their company’s image.
Having good manners doesn’t just equate to wiping your mouth at the dinner table, though that is a great manner to practice. These simple, yet effective manners are actions every girl can and should take, to maintain a ladylike, professional and classy appearance. After all, we are girls so let’s act like one! What is an important manner you were taught to have?
Comments
kaz: I agree with you Colleen this article pisses me off I'm not put on this earth to impress men
Jennie: This article is great. Of course not all women are like this and this doesn't make some women any less of a women, but opening doors for others not just for a man is very respectful. Yes man should open the door for a lady if they're in a relationship, but I believe a woman can open a door for anyone to show respect. The cursing can be seen differently, I curse some but I don't curse every other word. Taking it overboard can be disrespectful to the people around you if you're in public, and if you don't care then you don't mind being disrespectful to others.
Octavia: I have to work on my cursing
Coco: I can agree with all but I have a problem with the handshaking!'
chezrin: I received a comment regarding "please". Previously my emails are all with the word "please". And one of my ex-colleague commented that "please" does not show good manners, it should start with "kindly" instead
Ali: It's refreshing to know I do lots of these already! I try to be courteous all the time. & I agree that cursing is a disgusting habit! Manners are suuuuper important to me!
Kara: Some people I know find the term ma'am offensive because it conjures up images of a 'Madam' - being the in-charge mistress of the brothel. Do be careful when using the term because you may get a really awful response from a lady who feels you're insulting her. It never hurt anyone to cut back on the swearing, but as the writer says, there's a time and a place. It's definitely something i have to work on, but in public it tends to come naturally for me, unless I'm angry or real tired. Holding a door open for another person is showing that you're thoughtful to others needs, whether they're male or female, or your date is beside the point. Giving a genuine compliment is also a nice gesture that can be part of good manners, but not just saying something for lip service, putting some thought into it is what makes it good manners. Crossing ankles under your chair or to the side if not able to cross under is much better than having your leg swinging over the top. If you're at home, who cares, but you don't want people making inaccurate assumptions about you when you're in public. Oh, and if you chew gum - PLEEEEEEASE shut your mouth! That's one little 'manner' thing that really gets on my nerves - you're not a cow in a field chewing its cud, you're a person who is civilised. I don't want to see in your mouth, I'm not a dentist!
Rachael: Sitting like a lady, however good it looks, is bad for the back. You should avoid crossing your legs and just do the ankles if you must
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