If you are anything like me, then you will have read and loved Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck when it originally was published in 2016. Three years since that time, the book is still picking up speed and popularity for its general message of there being big benefits from taking a more casual, laid back approach to life that doesn’t involve getting so caught up in every single ounce of business possible. If it passed you by the first time around, then here are the best lessons to learn from The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck!
1. Your Best
The secret to having a good life is not trying to be THE best, but instead just TRYING to be your best. It isn’t healthy or realistic to try to reach the success of people far above you in terms of experience or talent, so try to find more intimate and meaningful happiness in your own little universe instead.
2. Less is More
Less really is more in pretty much every area of life. If you try too hard to have your fingers in all of life’s pies at the same time, you are just going to end up overwhelmed and with messy hands! Focus on the things that you do have right now rather than caring too much about getting more.
3. Don’t Compare
Making comparisons between yourself and other people is just a waste of time because no two people in the world have the same attitude or the same experience or the same circumstances. Imagine what you could do with your life if you took all of that energy spent looking at others and turned it inwards.
4. Wanting Isn’t Making
Simply wanting and longing for something to be better isn’t a way to actually make it better. We all want things, but it is only those determined few who can get past that stage and actually start putting plans together who actively make change.
5. Accept Your Experience
We all experience life differently, and it is important that you accept your own experiences and use them to further your life, rather than trying to pretend you are somebody different. Living a lie like that is just too damn exhausting.
6. Stop Searching
Sometimes, you spend so much time searching for an unknown happiness that you forget to stop and realize that is usually always already there. It’s the whole ‘the grass is always greener’ attitude, and it is never helpful.
7. Negatives Are Valuable
The goal isn’t to try to sail through life without ever having a negative experience at all, but rather to take these negative experiences when they arise and turn them into valuable learning lessons for the future.
8. Stop Caring
Come on, this isn’t high school anymore, you need to stop caring about ‘fitting in’. Every single person in the world is an individual, and happiness comes when you can accept that and start to embrace the differences rather than trying to iron them out.
9. We All Die!
It might sound morbid, but the fact of the matter is that we are all on the same path when it comes to the end of our lives! Life is too short to spend too much time worrying about being perfect, so just enjoy what you have now and don’t waste time restricting or changing yourself.