You're perfect just the way you are. Never let another woman's beauty make you feel worse about your own looks. There's no reason to compare yourself with others, because it's not going to do anything but cause you more stress and sadness. In the spirit of self-love, here are a few things to remember the next time you start to compare yourself to another woman:
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1. You Know Yourself Better than You Know Her
You look at yourself in the mirror every single day, so you have plenty of time to search your face and body for flaws. However, the women that you see on television or at the supermarket are only in your line of sight for a few seconds. That's not nearly enough time to scrutinize them, so of course you'll assume that they're more beautiful than you. The next time you find yourself comparing your looks to another woman's looks, remember that you know yourself way too well and you don't know that woman nearly enough.
2. She's Probably Jealous of You, Too
The grass is always greener on the other side. That's why you're always going to think that others are more beautiful than you are. However, that girl that you're so jealous of is probably jealous of you, too. While you want her size 2 jeans, she wants your pearly white smile. Start seeing what she sees.
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3. Be Happy for Her, Not Jealous
Us girls should stick together. It's easy to get mad at someone for being "prettier" than you are when you should actually be happy for her. You don't know how long it could've taken her to get ready in the morning. You don't know how much surgery she got to look the way she wanted. Don't turn down a potential friendship out of jealousy. Be happy for her.
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When you feel pangs of envy, try to transform them into inspiration. Everyone has their own journey, filled with struggles and triumphs. By celebrating her successes, you aren't detracting from your own worth. You're acknowledging the diversity of beauty and achievement that exists around us. Remember, your beauty isn't diminished by someone else's glow. Shift focus towards self-improvement, not self-pity, and use that energy to cultivate your own happiness and confidence.
4. Pretend to Love Yourself
Haven't you heard the phrase "fake it until you make it?" It's actually true. If you walk with more confidence and keep your head up high in order to trick others into believing you're confident, then soon you'll actually become confident. It's funny the way the brain works.
5. Focus on the Positive
When you glance in the mirror, stop staring at your pimples and start staring at your beautiful pouty lips. When you step into the shower, stop looking at your scars and start looking at your gorgeous curves. If you focus on the positive aspects of yourself, then you'll start believing that you're truly beautiful.
6. Alter What You Hate
You're stuck in your body, but you're still capable of changing it if you're not happy with what it looks like. If you hate the size of your thighs, exercise. If you hate the color of your eyes, get colored contacts. You don't have to walk around hating yourself. You can change your appearance if it's bothering you that much.
7. Compliment Others
If you compliment others more often, then you'll learn to see beauty before you see flaws. That optimism is contagious. Once you start seeing the positives in others, then it'll be easier for you to see the positives in the mirror.
Once you stop comparing yourself to others, you'll find yourself feeling a whole lot happier. What's the most beautiful thing about your face and body?
Comments
Karen: If you try to better yourself in everything you do every single day, you will learn to "earn" your new body. You are your own competion". Why use someone else to drag you one else
Annie: I love my eyebrows but don't like my acne n pimples but i love every thing bout my body even though i feel a little jealous lol
SAV: Well said
Aceg: just the way you are*
Bianca: Love this
Angelica8787: I love my eyes they aren't a fancy color but they are bright and big ;)
Liv: Brilliant advice especially to those younger people who might be going through the stage of judgment at the moment or maybe later on in their lives. Very inspirational
Mar: Surgery? Wow, how about " you don't know how many hours she works out"
peony: I don't Even look at anyone...I have better things to do than to look at someone. Of course if I at an event and a girl looks good then of course I will give a compliment but apart from that can't be asked.
Aceg: well, i don't think alter yourself is such a good idea, maybe working out for the sake of health, but lenses? I mean, learn to love yourself just you are, because if you don't you'll never be satisfied no matter how many surgeries you get, you'll always find another flaw. it's a self-esteem matter.
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