10 Reasons Not to Care What Others Think for Girls with Self-Confidence Issues ...

1. Life is Too Short

You only have one life to live, so why would you spend it worrying about other people’s opinions?

Do whatever you want and be whoever you want. You’re not going to see these people after you’re dead. You probably won’t even see them in a year from now.

Live your life without worrying about other people’s thoughts and opinion, and you will live your life to the maximum.

2. It's Not Their Life so It's None of Their Business

People are entitled to think whatever they want just as you are entitled to think what you want. But regardless of what people think of you, it doesn't change who you are or what you are worth, unless you allow them to.

This is your life to live. At the end of the day you are the only person who needs to approve of your own choices.

3. Their Version of 'right' Might Be Wrong for You

It’s important to recognise that someone’s opinion is often based on what they would do and this is the problem.

What is best for somebody else could potentially be the worst thing for you. What one person considers garbage can be another person’s treasure.

Only you know what is right for you, so take their version of 'right' with a grain of salt and trust your instincts as they are nearly always right.

4. It Could Keep You from Your Dreams

If you're constantly worried about what other people think, you will never get to where you need to go in life or achieve as much as you could have otherwise.

And if you think about it, you're going to have to make decisions that don’t meet people’s standards at some point in life...we all are. You will come into situations where you have to put your pride, and your reputation on the line to get what you want and need.

If you are constantly worried about what people are thinking you may never have the will or the ability to do what’s right for you.

5. You're Stuck with the End Result

In life you're the one stuck with the consequences of your decisions, and the only one.

Similarly, if you follow someone else's advice and it doesn't work out for you, you will be the only one who it effects at the end of the day and you will have to live with the fact that you didn’t follow your inner call to begin with.

When people give you their suggestions or even orders, there is no risk for them. They don’t have to live with your choices, but you do.


6. Thoughts Constantly Change

We are constantly changing. There's even been some theories that we're in a constant state of internal motion, to the extent that we can't say we have one, specific ‘self’ or a fixed personality.

People’s thoughts, ideas and views change on a regular basis because it's simply a part of life. This means even if somebody does think badly of you at the moment, there is a good chance they will think differently in the near future. So basically, other people's thoughts don’t really matter because there's a good chance it's only temporary.


7. Others Don't Care as Much as You Think

People generally don’t think outside themselves a great deal of time. It is a sad but simple truth that the average person filters their world through their ego, meaning that they think about most things in terms of “me” or “my”.

This means that unless who you are or what you have done directly affects another person or their life, they are unlikely to spend much time thinking about you at all.

8. You Can't Please Everybody

You can’t please every single person all of the time. And you shouldn't want to, either. You should know that it's more important to save yourself the time and energy you would have spent trying to achieve the unachievable and channel it towards another area of your life which can benefit from your attention, time and energy.


It is impossible to live up to everyone’s expectations so there is no point in burning yourself out trying to do so. Make sure that the only person you focus on pleasing is yourself!

9. They Don't Know What is Best for You

Nobody will ever be as invested in your life as you. Only you know what is best for you, and that entails learning from your own choices.

The only way you will ever truly learn is through making your own decisions, taking full responsibility for them, and that way if you do fail at least you can learn from it instead of blaming somebody else.

10. You Reap What You Sow

Worrying too much about what other people think of you can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Frequently, people indulge their need to be liked to such an extent that it actually dictates the way they choose to behave. Some become people-pleasers or so submissive that many people are turned off by this behavioural type.

So what happens is your constant pleasing behaviour (used to ensure you are liked) may actually cause you to be disliked and it quickly becomes counter-productive!