7 Good Manners Every Girl Should Have Always ...

7 Good Manners Every Girl Should Have Always ...
By Heather • Jun 28, 2013 • MD

Being from the South, manners have been genetically instilled in me since birth. Don’t get me wrong, all Southerners do not have manners, but manners are still pretty much prized as being the ultimate quality to have, especially for a woman, around here. Certain manners can enhance your relationships, help you meet people, snag a new job you want, maintain a good professional demeanor, help you meet a man, make you more generous, keep you humble, and enhance your social skills. Read on to find my 7 favorites and do share yours with me, pretty please!

1. Always Offer a Handshake

In the germophobic world we live in, no one seems to want to shake hands anymore, but offering your handshake is one of the most important manners every girl should have. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve met someone new and they seem a little hesitant towards me, or shy. I immediately offer my hand out to them and tell them how glad I am to meet them. This breaks down a barrier between you and strangers, and lets them know you’re friendly. It also loosens you up and makes it easier to meet others each time you do it. If someone refuses to shake your hand, don’t take it personally. They simply might have a germ issue, and in that case, just put down your hand and give them a smile. This manner is especially important on a job interview, where I always offer a handshake to the person interviewing me. It suggests confidence, which is priceless in the work field.

2. Always Say Ma’am or Sir

I don’t care if someone is the same age as you or not, or even if they are younger. Anyone who is your employer, teacher, leader, mentor, co-worker, etc. should be called ma’am and sir out of respect. Trust me, they’ll probably tell you that you don’t have to call them that, but it still implies you are kind, respectful and courteous. Just say it and thank me later.

3. Always Say Please and Thank You

Most girls know this is a manner that we need to have, but it still has to be said. Saying please when requesting something and thank you upon receiving anything, even if it is just an answer to a question, is crucial to having manners. Do this with anyone, not just someone above you.

4. Open Doors for Others

Unless you’re on a date, it is a great idea to open doors for other people when out in public. Never open your date’s door for him though, that’s his job! Opening doors for other people signals that you’re courteous, kind and aware of others. It is also one of the best hospitality gestures you can offer others. You don't have to be the bellhop and hold it open for everyone; one person will do!

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5. Smile

One overlooked manner every girl should have is to smile. Smile at strangers, school mates, and co-workers whenever you get the chance. A simple smile and “Hey, how are you?” will get you further along in developing relationships, meeting people, maintaining a good work relationship, and generally make you seem happier and easier to talk to. Plus, a smile is the prettiest thing you could ever wear!

6. Sit like a Lady

This might sound old fashioned, but it's true! When you’re out in public at an event or on a date, cross your legs, or at least your ankles. Don’t slouch in your chair with your legs hanging out in front of you, but instead, sit up straight and maintain a good ladylike position. You don't need to look stiff like you're at a tea party, but simply sit up tall with good posture and gently crossed legs or ankles. This manner will help you seem professional, feminine, graceful and classy.

7. Don’t Curse

For the love of being a lady, stop cursing! Unless you’re at home alone and just broke that glass dish your mom gave you for Christmas, of course! Then it’s okay since you’re alone! Seriously though, don’t make a habit of cursing, especially around guys. They want to date someone who is a lady, not a potty mouth. Cursing is also a big no no on the job. Employers don’t want their employees having bad language or it might influence their company’s image.

Having good manners doesn’t just equate to wiping your mouth at the dinner table, though that is a great manner to practice. These simple, yet effective manners are actions every girl can and should take, to maintain a ladylike, professional and classy appearance. After all, we are girls so let’s act like one! What is an important manner you were taught to have?

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  • Snow_Angel_14

    2015-01-09T04:42:45.370Z

    I do all of these already :3
  • Mad

    2013-06-29T19:52:40.000Z

    Maybe its actually easier than it sounds! If you base your manners on kindness, then you got it :)
  • Madeline

    2013-06-29T00:21:00.000Z

    I have such trouble with number 6....
  • MarykaImagine

    2013-08-30T22:50:10.000Z

    I actually learned in my Tourism and hositality course that calling someone ma'am is considered very rude, because it brings the impression that the woman you are speaking to is "old". We learned to always say Ms. That way if they are not married it is still polite and if they are married, they will just correct you and say Mrs.
  • Kara

    2013-10-01T15:22:44.000Z

    Some people I know find the term ma'am offensive because it conjures up images of a 'Madam' - being the in-charge mistress of the brothel. Do be careful when using the term because you may get a really awful response from a lady who feels you're insulting her. It never hurt anyone to cut back on the swearing, but as the writer says, there's a time and a place. It's definitely something i have to work on, but in public it tends to come naturally for me, unless I'm angry or real tired. Holding a door open for another person is showing that you're thoughtful to others needs, whether they're male or female, or your date is beside the point. Giving a genuine compliment is also a nice gesture that can be part of good manners, but not just saying something for lip service, putting some thought into it is what makes it good manners. Crossing ankles under your chair or to the side if not able to cross under is much better than having your leg swinging over the top. If you're at home, who cares, but you don't want people making inaccurate assumptions about you when you're in public. Oh, and if you chew gum - PLEEEEEEASE shut your mouth! That's one little 'manner' thing that really gets on my nerves - you're not a cow in a field chewing its cud, you're a person who is civilised. I don't want to see in your mouth, I'm not a dentist!
  • Rachael

    2013-06-28T20:59:42.000Z

    Sitting like a lady, however good it looks, is bad for the back. You should avoid crossing your legs and just do the ankles if you must
  • yscute

    2014-11-04T05:29:56.569Z

    No shake hand in Japanese people, it's good not to Shake to avoid Ebola hehehhe.
  • Natasha

    2013-07-12T00:57:26.000Z

    I also say good morning to everyone in the morning.
  • Tierra

    2014-11-23T15:07:16.747Z

    Wow i do all of these :D
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