At least, being indecisive can make you seem scatty, non-committal and lacking confidence. At worst, being indecisive means missing out. Not grasping the opportunities that come your way means goals sit unachieved. Life is filled with so many choices it can be difficult but here’s how you can stop dithering and be more decisive.
1. Trust Your Instincts
There is something really animalistic about our gut feelings, and it probably comes from a time when our ancestors needed to make split decisions that could be the difference between life and death. Even if your head it trying to tell you something different, my advice is to always go with what your gut is telling you; that feeling of dread is there for a reason, ignore it at your peril.
2. Embrace the Moment
Don’t get too caught up in the stress of the moment when it comes to making decisions. Sometimes people can get so occupied with making the decision that they forget enjoy and fully experience what comes of it. The more conviction you have in your decision, the less time you will spend pondering over it.
3. Refuse Peer Pressure
One of the best ways to be more decisive is to refuse to give in to any kind of peer pressure that you might experience, whether it’s silly little things like having a cigarette or bigger things like being persuaded to break the law. You are the only person who should be making personal decisions. Don’t let external factors and loud voices guide you in to doing something that you do not want to do. Outright refusing to crumble under peer pressure makes you look and feel incredibly decisive.
4. Pros & Cons
If you are making a decision that is a little less time sensitive, then it is always a good idea to sit down and write a pros and cons list relating to the situation you are facing. Sometimes when you physically write your doubts and positives down, you will be surprised by which side of the argument actually wins out. Don’t make a split second decision; being decisive doesn’t always mean being quick, it means being thorough.
5. Sensible Isn’t Always Best
Just because there is an option that is clearly more sensible than the other, it doesn’t always mean that that is the option that you should choose. Being sensible sometimes doesn’t bring you the satisfaction or happiness that you were looking for. Sometimes it pays off to take a risk and throw caution to the wind. Always remember to be safe though, whatever you happen to be doing!
6. Stick with It
The key to coming across as a decisive person rests in the fact that once you come to a decision on a topic, you make sure that you stick to that decision to avoid being labeled a flake or a flip-flopper. Having courage in your conviction is an important test of character, and once you become comfortable with standing your ground, the decisiveness in your personality will be there for all to see.
7. Take Responsibility
The sad truth is that, even though we always have the best intentions, we don’t always make the best decisions in the world. The other side of the coin when it comes to being decisive is that it is important that you take full responsibility for your actions if the decision you made turns out to be the wrong one. Nobody likes a sore loser or a person who like to shift the blame to others.
Being decisive will help you reach where you’re going! Do you struggle with decision making? Will these tips help do you think?