Looking for some ways to boost your confidence? At some point, everyone runs into issues with their own self-confidence. When this happens, it can, unfortunately, be easy to spiral into a wider sense of self-doubt and make it that much more difficult to feel comfortable again. Whether your low confidence has been a long standing issue in your life, or you’ve just had a few problems scattered here and there, it is important to practice self-care with the goal of bringing your confidence back up. Here are the best ways to boost your confidence.
1. Compliment Yourself in the Mirror Every Day
This really is one of the best ways to boost your confidence. If you’re not very confident in your appearance, this one can seem silly or even uncomfortable at the start. Over time though, this makes a huge difference in your self-confidence and self-love, so you’ll have to trust me on this one. For this exercise, you’ll need to look into your own eyes in the mirror (either alone or with someone there for support, it’s really up to you), and repeat “you are beautiful, and I love you” three times to yourself. After telling yourself this every day for a while, you will begin to believe it, and even look forward to doing it every day. This exercise has helped me so much in improving my own self-confidence.
2. Present Yourself in a Way That Gives You Confidence
If you’re not feeling so good about yourself, one of the quickest ways to get a small boost of confidence is to dress and groom yourself in a way that raises your mood. Whether it’s wearing your favorite outfit, putting on that lipstick that makes you feel powerful, or doing your hair in that new style you’ve always wanted to try, making sure you look good for yourself can go a long way in setting the mood for your day. If this becomes a habit over time, it can leave a permanent impact on your confidence in your own appearance.
3. Surround Yourself with Positive Influences
One of the most important strategies for building your self-confidence is to surround yourself with people who are positive and supportive. When you have a solid support system, it’s much easier to reach out when you need to talk or get some reassurance. A positive support system also gives you a better quality of life, as you can take turns supporting each other, plan fun activities together, or even do something simple like sending each other entertaining memes when you’re all busy. Having people you trust and love and who make you feel good can make a big difference in boosting your confidence.
4. Limit Interaction with Negative Influences
On the same note, it’s equally important to limit your interactions with people who are negative and make you feel bad about yourself. If there are toxic people in your life who are contributing to your lack of confidence, ideally you’re going to need to let them go, even if it’s hard in the beginning. If it isn’t possible to completely remove some toxic people from your life, it is important for your own health to limit your exposure to them as much as possible. This means setting strict boundaries such as only seeing or communicating with them when necessary, turning down plans that really won’t be good for you, and unfollowing or muting them on social media. It is also helpful to practice self-care during times when you do interact. This could mean anything from taking a soothing bath to venting to a supportive friend after the interaction. Of course, if you are in an abusive situation, it is important to get help from professional and/or emergency services as discreetly and safely as possible.
5. Write Things You Love about Yourself
This is another daily exercise that can help to slowly boost your confidence over time. For this activity, you need to write down one thing you love about your personality and one thing you love about your body every day. If you have low self-esteem, this can admittedly be difficult in the beginning, but each trait you choose can be as small or significant as you like. In keeping with this every day, it will slowly become easier to find things that you love about yourself as your confidence will grow with each positive quality that you point out to yourself.
6. Seek Help if You Need It
Sometimes your self-esteem is so low that you need a bit of extra support in getting it up again, and that’s perfectly okay. Going to see your doctor or a therapist can be an excellent first step in getting your confidence back, especially if it’s accompanied by a mental illness or eating disorder. Professional help with the right treatment can be one of the most impactful ways to have a healthy mindset, and coupled with self-care exercises like the ones mentioned previously, you can surely get your confidence back and give yourself the love you deserve.