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7 Ways to Become Your Own Best Friend ...

By Martina

Being by yourself can actually be a lot of fun! Guest contributor Martina Davitkova tells you how exactly you can become your own best friend.

Are you relying on others to cure your loneliness? Are you searching for that special someone to take away the moments of solitude? Well, then it is time to start loving yourself more and get comfortable in your own skin. Becoming your own best friend is the ultimate cure for loneliness! Here's how you can do just that.

Table of contents:

  1. Have a conversation with yourself
  2. Listen to your body
  3. Do something you love everyday
  4. Don’t judge yourself (or others)
  5. Cherish time alone
  6. Achieve your own goals
  7. Get out of your comfort zone

1 Have a Conversation with Yourself

Take some time each day to contemplate over your life situation. Are you where you want to be or do you feel stuck in the same old dull routine? Start a conversation with yourself out loud or in your mind. Ask yourself questions like «Am I doing my everything to make myself happy? Am I content with who I am and/or the situation I’m in?» The number one rule to become your own best friend is to be honest with yourself and trust your own answers instead of depending on others opinions on what you should or shouldn't do.

2 Listen to Your Body

Do you know the saying "Your body is a temple"? Well, I don’t want to sound cheesy or something, but it’s true. Your body is like a temple full of precious gems. If something gets broken it takes a lot of time to fix it or make it as good as it was before the damage. Therefore, it’s important to always maintain good health. If your body is too tired to be cleaning, running, cooking or doing other everyday chores, don’t push it. Listen to your body and give it time to relax.

3 Do Something You Love Everyday

Treat yourself with things you love to do. If you do something you love each day, even if it’s just for a short amount of time, it's well worth it! Our daily lives are full of things we often don’t feel like doing but need to, so after you’ve done the not-so-fun-stuff, be sure to do something you enjoy doing!

4 Don’t Judge Yourself (or Others)

This is very important and I think it’s a life lesson we all should practise all the time. There’s a quote by George Eliot saying, « Friendship is the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words.» Don’t judge yourself or others and you’ll get closer to yourself and start becoming your own best friend.

5 Cherish Time Alone

Instead of feeling restless or bored when you're alone, change your perspective and use the time to do things you normally wouldn't do with someone else. Watch a show or a movie you've always wanted, go out shopping or enjoy a coffee by yourself.

6 Achieve Your Own Goals

Support yourself the same way you would support a family member or friend. Write a list of your goals and wishes and dare to be bold. Be your own cheerleader and make a plan to achieve these goals.

7 Get out of Your Comfort Zone

The best way to develop as a human being is to open your mind to new possibilities. If you feel stuck in the same place, make sure you do everything you can to get unstuck, even if it means doing something you normally would be too scared or nervous of. Try new things, like talking to a stranger, travel somewhere you haven’t been or become a volunteer. Stepping out of your comfort zone can be intimidating but at the same time you will learn something new about yourself.

Loneliness is sometimes scary because it can make us feel antsy or even depressed, but it’s important to know that it isn’t the situation of being alone that causes us to feel this way. It ‘s our mind and our thoughts. By practicing self-love you are going to feel more comfortable with yourself!

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