As we all grow up we sometimes need to talk and get advice-beyond our friends-and that's where mom comes in. Sure, she doesn't want to admit that you're growing up, but your mom can really be your best friend if you try. Here's the ins and outs of having an open communication relationship with your mom for all the tough stuff. Thanks Brit+Co.com for sharing!
Josselyne Herman-Saccio is a communication expert with Landmark, a global personal development company that helps people experience breakthroughs in perspective, performance, communication, relationships and overall satisfaction in life. I attended a seminar with her last year, and what she taught really deepened my communication with my mom. I couldn’t wait to ask her for more valuable tips and ideas to help other women.
When talking about her own relationship with her mother, Josselyne emphasized that understanding different perspectives is paramount to maintaining a strong relationship. She shared, “I have given up the right to be right with my mother — it’s just not important. I just let her express herself — I don’t have to prove a point or get her to see things from my view. Mostly people argue because they think their view is the truth. Once you get that there are different views, they can have their view without you having to prove them wrong or prove yours right, so it doesn’t threaten you.”
Scroll on to learn more of Josselyne’s tips for having a fantastic relationship with your mom — including sharing your dating life, arguing less and getting closer after college. With this kind of advice, you’ll be smooth-sailing.
1. How to Evolve Your Relationship with Your Mom
Josselyne says that your behavior is key here. Many young women complain that their mothers still see them as little girls, but they forget how their behavior might contribute to what is happening. Taking responsibility for your role will give you more power. “Actions will speak louder than words. Mothers mostly relate to their daughters as children because they act like children when around their mothers. They slip into old, familiar patterns of being and action. Create the YOU you want to be known as by your mother, and then act consistently with that. If you want to be powerful and patient, be that, versus reacting with her like she is not giving you what you want.”