Show off Friends? How to Deal with One-upmanship ...

Are you fed up of your friend always doing better than you or having more than you? No matter your achievement, she always has to trump it. Every little thing you are proud of having or achieving, she just has to have something better or do it better. As much as you may love her, a show off friend can soon become no friend at all. There are ways to deal with one-upmanship – here’s how:

1. Interrupt Her when She is Talking

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If your friend is a complete show-off and you do not want to engage or encourage her, then be rude. Interrupt her. It is really annoying because you are stealing her thunder. As she boasts about how the ants in her house where bigger than anything she has ever seen, interrupt her with a story about the anteater you saw on YouTube that was caught swimming in a local outdoor pool.

2. Start a Side Conversation Quietly

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This is also very annoying for “toppers.” As she is boasting away about how hers is bigger, better and sexier than somebody else’s, lean over to someone on your left or right and start a quiet conversation. It is not intentionally rude, but it will annoy the person that is doing all the boasting.

3. Yawn

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If you let out a big yawn whilst the person is talking, it lets them know that they are boring and that you are bored. Make a playful apology and say you had a late night. If you are lucky, your yawn will trigger that natural reaction in people to have a yawn and they will do a Mexican yawn around the room. You are probably thinking about yawning now aren’t you?

4. Grow up and Deal with It

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Understand that some people are just jerks and you kind of have to live with it. Get out of their presence, avoid them, or cut them out of your life if you can. Otherwise, just deal with it. Let the baby have her bottle.

5. Patronize the Very Boastful

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This is still in the mean territory, but they are the ones with the low self-esteem, so patronize the person doing the boasting. “That is very good for you,” is a good one, or “It’s been a long time since you bought something nice,” is another.

6. Give Her No Attention

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You can passively ignore people if you are in a group. Do not engage and give her no attention. Let the other people in the group plump her ego and reward her for having or doing what she does

7. Just Listen and Switch off

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Maybe you don’t want to be rude, and maybe you don’t want to upset the person that is talking. If this is the case, simply listen and reply at the right moments, but switch off your brain.

This is a difficult subject if the annoying person is a good friend, you might actually consider broaching the issue with her, letting her know how you feel. On the other hand, if she needs to justify her existence by having her friends say nice things, then why not do it for her. You are not going to fix her in any way, so let her feel a little better about herself.

Your actions really depend on how much the issue bothers you. Have you got any friends who constantly try to outdo you?

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