Removing toxic people from your life is just something that becomes necessary from time to time. Do you ever feel the friction around a person? Do you ever feel like you don't want to cause problems? Sometimes, you need to.
"Toxic" friends are friends that make you feel bad. You know, the kind of friend that is emotionally demanding, narcissistic, and in a constant one-sided competition with you. Someone who talks behind your back, or passive-aggressively says things to purposefully put you down to your face, is someone that you don't need in your life.
Toxic people are those individuals who poison your life with their negativity, gossip, abuse, selfishness, and other evil behavior. And just like a real poison, after ingesting their “venom” you become sick and weak. Removing toxic people from your life is a gift you can give yourself.
1. Concentrate on Your Own Mental Well Being and Stop Trying to Analyse Their Behavior
It is a waste of your time and it will drain you of energy. Do you sometimes spend time trying to analyze someone else’s behavior and drive yourself nuts doing it? It's probably time to see that removing toxic people from your life is a good thing.
2. Most Toxic People Will do Their Utmost to Point out Your Flaws, Making You Feel Bad
They will use your perceived flaws to criticize you, often to other people as well. Believe in yourself and be proud of who you are, warts and all. No longer allow their opinion to manipulate you.
3. Stop Pretending Their Toxic Behavior is OK
If you’re not careful, toxic people can use their moody behavior to get preferential treatment.
4. Put Your Foot down
Your dignity may be attacked, ravaged and disgracefully mocked, but it can never be taken away unless you willingly surrender it. It’s all about finding the strength to defend your boundaries. Demonstrate that you won’t be insulted.
5. Don’t Take Their Toxic Behavior Personally
It’s them, not you. KNOW this.
6. Don’t Hide or Ignore How You Feel
Whatever you do, don’t internalize it. Embrace it. Express it however you can. Grab a notebook and write it down so it’s no longer eating you up inside. When you’re writing, make the reader feel how you feel. The only way to do this is to truly embrace all your emotions and translate them into words.
7. Your Fake "Friend"
That friend who you know deep down you cannot trust. You're scared to tell them your business because you know they will spread it faster than butter on toast. Why would you even have a friend like this around? That friendship is not genuine or healthy. Once you finally remove them, it feels like a heavyweight lifts off your shoulders.
8. That "Friend" Who Uses You to Boost Their Ego
Whether it's commenting on your looks, your intelligence, your fashion, the other people you hang out with, etc., they nit-pick at everything you do, typically in a negative or condescending way, attempting to pick themselves up. Do not tolerate this.
9. Keep a Cool Head
Learn to manage your emotions. Learning assertiveness skills and doing self-esteem work can help you make huge strides to stand up to these creeps, manage boundaries, and shield yourself in a cool, calm and collected manner and diminish your sense of defenselessness and powerlessness. Your self-worth, self-respect, and self-assurance will soar!
I found these tips through some heartfelt research. As for myself, last year, I had to rid toxic people from my life who came in-between my family and me. It meant going cold turkey. No telephone calls, no e-mails and no texts. Did I feel miserable? Yes.
Pick up the pieces and move on. You can do it. Only then can you and your loved ones move on.