There are several reasons why you shouldn't care what others think about you that I would like to share. As much as we may tell ourselves that we don't care what others think, deep down, we really do and we're always seeking validation from others when we should be validating ourselves. If you're someone who spends their time agonizing over what others think about you and the way you're living your life, here are some valid reasons why you shouldn't care what others think about you anymore.
1. It's Their Opinion
One of the reasons why you shouldn't care what others think about you is that it's THEIR opinion, pure and simple. Just because it's their opinion, doesn't mean it's right either. People love to jump on the Judgment Float at the Gossip Parade but as long as you remember that it's just their opinion and nothing more, you may find it easier to continue with your life.
2. It's Your Life
One of the things to remember is that it's your life to live and providing you're not doing any harm to others, or yourself for that matter, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about your life. My favorite quote about not caring what others think is by Dr Seuss: "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." So true!
3. It's Exhausting
Agonising about what others think is exhausting. I often feel sorry for celebrities whose every move is critiqued and scrutinized and wonder how they cope with all the 'haters' without going completely insane. Granted, some of them do go a little cuckoo but some of them just 'shake it off' a la Taylor Swift. We should all do the same I think!
4. Ulterior Motives
Some times people have ulterior motives when they give their opinion. This might sound a little paranoid but people might be trying to sway you in a different direction which suits their agenda when they're telling you what they think. This is something to bear in mind.
5. Stops You from Doing Things
Spending time thinking about what others think about you will ultimately stop you from reaching your goals and dreams. Just do what you love and follow your heart without worrying what others think about you as you might be letting them stand in your way. Fear of social judgment can stop us in our tracks. Think about it. If you're in a room and you see a guy or a gal you like, you might be afraid to go and speak to them because of what others might think. Don't let what other people might think get in your way of doing anything. Live life fearlessly.
6. You Can't Please Everyone
The truth is, we can't please all the people all the time. Trying to do so can be exhausting and is impossible. As much as we may want to keep everyone happy, we may become burdened by everyone else's wishes and desires that are difficult to meet. Be confident and strong in yourself and know that what you're doing is the right thing for you, right now.
7. They're More Concerned about Themselves
The irony is that because everyone is worried about what others think, they're not actually thinking about you at all! Eleanor Roosevelt once said that "you wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do". More words of wisdom about not spending your energy worrying about what others are thinking of you.
It's difficult not to concern ourselves with what others think but it can be done. I know there's a touch of irony in this following question but what do you think?