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Nix These Things if You Want to Be Successful ...

By Deeceebee

A lot of us tend to blame others for our lack of success. You can blame others, circumstances or fate for your lack of success, but it might actually be you that is sabotaging your own dreams. Positive thinking, a can-do attitude and flexibility are just some factors you need to be in control of. If you crave success make sure these following are not part of your makeup.

1 Negative Outlook on Life

You may not have noticed that the people around you are soul-sucking fiends with a negative outlook on life that stops you from forging ahead. Ditch them and seek the company of life-embracing chums with a positive outlook on life that will inspire you.

2 Disinclination

You like dreaming of riches and success but deep down you feel it's not really the thing for you. Rubbish! It's just another excuse your brain has dreamed up because it's easier than dealing with fear of change. Changing your life for the better feels amazing, so get on with it!

3 A Sense of Entitlement

Not everybody has super-rich parents or a family tree charting back to William the Conqueror and 1066 AD. You may think you're way smarter or talented than everybody else, but until you've proven yourself, a sense of entitlement just gets in the way of your success.

4 Lack of Goals

You're merely bumbling along without any plan or setting achievable goals. Face it, you're merely standing still, treading water, without getting anywhere. Set a goal, get going and stick with it.

5 Thinking Too Small

To make it big you mustn't think small. Aim to be a leader, not a follower!

6 A Fear of Change

Everybody is afraid of change, that's human nature. Maybe you'll fall flat on your face at the first attempt and look a fool. So what? Don't let fear of failure, discomfort or embarrassment stop you. Just think what your family and friends will say when you finally turn up in that luxury limousine!

7 Idleness

Read the autobiography of any truly successful person in the world and you'll find they worked their socks off to get where they are today. If you're naturally lazy, just admit it, but stop complaining about your lack of success and wealth.

8 Lack of Confidence

So what if a 7th grade teacher said you suck at literature or your neighbors said you'll never amount to much. Ignore society's gripes and have a little faith in your abilities. Successful people believe in themselves before anybody else does.

9 Action Speaks Louder than Analysis

Endlessly analysing your situation won't get you the bank balance and lifestyle you're dreaming of. Stop analysing and start turning your aspirations into reality.

10 No Star Appeal

So you're not successful and rich yet because you're not pretty enough, your ankles are fat or you lack the voice to make others swoon? Nothing but excuses! Ignore the hype about X-factors and star appeal. Find your niche, the thing you love doing and are really good at. Now shine in that niche, fat ankles and all!

11 Blaming Others

"They" are responsible for your lack of success. How many people have used that old chestnut to explain away their lack of ambition, drive and imagination? There's no such thing as a secret society setting you up for failure, or dastardly villains controlling your every move or FATE throwing you off course. It's just another excuse put forward by the weak and lazy.

12 Letting Time Slip through Your Fingers

Admit it, you're a time waster. You spend more time talking about future success than actually putting wheels in motion to get there. If you're so content being unproductive, why not continue wallowing in obscurity?

13 Addiction to Social Media

No wonder you're not a millionaire yet; you're spending 50% of your waking hours on social media sites. Ditch the addiction to tweet every miniscule event in your life and start talking and meeting with REAL people to further your career.

I’m sorry if some of that hit hard or where it hurts but sometimes we – me included - need a mental shove or some tough love to get us on the right track to being the fabulous women we all have in us to be. Don’t you deserve to strive to be the best you can be?

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