The older you get, the more you realize that friends aren’t as easy to come by and to keep as they were at school. You used to just be put in a classroom together and bond over shared time and shared experiences, but when adulthood hits, friendships become something that take more and more work to cultivate and grow. This is often down to the behavior that you choose to show. Here are fifteen ways to be a friend worth having!
1. Be Present
Always be there with a friend when they are in need. Don’t just pay attention to the relationship when it suits you.
2. Be Authentic
You can’t pretend to be a different person forever; you need to be authentic to really make lasting connections with people.
3. Listen
Just be there to lend an ear when someone needs to talk; listening is a more cherished skill than talking.
4. Be Loyal
Be true to them; they will appreciate someone having their back and will repay you with the very same loyalty.
5. Be Flexible
It shouldn’t always be about what you want and when you can do things. Be flexible with your time and make sure to fit everything and everyone in.
6. Be Honest
People value honesty, and they can tell when you aren’t being truthful. Don't tell white lies and your friendship will be stronger for it.
7. Be Supportive
Always be supportive of people’s venture and ambitions, even if they aren’t necessarily things that you would want to do yourself.
8. Improve Each Other
Instead of bringing each other down, you should always be looking for ways to improve each other’s lives.
9. Communicate
Be as open and communicative as you can, because the clearer your communication channels are, the closer you will be.
10. Be Respectful
It’s important to respect your friend’s boundaries the same way that you hope they would respect yours. You don’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable.
11. Enjoy Silence
Be one of those people who doesn’t mind enjoying a little silence with a friend. The people who have to fill every second with noise are the ones who aren’t as close.
12. Be Observant
Make sure to be observant of their moods, so that you can adjust your own behaviour accordingly. You need to be very emotionally intelligent.
13. Attend!
Show up to the things that you are supposed to who up at! Being a flake is the opposite way to make yourself a friend worth having.
14. Two-Way Street
Remember that good friendship is a two-way street. You can’t expect to get love and respect from a friend if you aren’t willing to give it back.
15. Give Advice
Always be willing to listen to a friend’s problem and be happy to give advice on whatever they are going through. Sometimes just having someone who is showing concern and trying to problem solve is enough.
Frequently Asked Questions
- How can I be a more supportive friend?
- Listen actively, offer encouragement, and be there during both good and tough times.
- What are simple ways to show I care to my friends?
- Send thoughtful messages, remember important dates, and check in regularly.
- How do I build trust in friendships?
- Be honest, keep confidences, and be reliable by following through on promises.
- What should I do if I accidentally hurt a friend's feelings?
- Apologize sincerely, acknowledge their feelings, and give them space if needed.
- How can I balance my time between friends and personal life?
- Prioritize quality over quantity and communicate openly about your availability.
- What qualities make someone a friend worth having?
- Kindness, loyalty, empathy, and the ability to celebrate your successes.
- How do I support a friend going through a tough time?
- Offer a listening ear, avoid judgment, and suggest helpful resources if appropriate.
- Can being honest ever hurt a friendship?
- Honesty is important, but delivering it with kindness ensures it strengthens rather than harms bonds.
- How do I make new friends as an adult?
- Join groups or activities you enjoy and be open to starting conversations with new people.
- What’s a good way to resolve conflicts with friends?
- Address issues calmly, listen to their perspective, and work together towards understanding.