Breaking up with a friend is just as hard as breaking up with a significant other. True friends are rare, so when someone you’ve formed a close bond with, and who you’ve woven into every area of your life, is no longer there, it can be hard to come to terms with it. Thankfully, this transition can be a little easier if you know the signs which signal your friendship may be running its course, ahead of time. Keep reading to find out how to know if your friend is about to break up with you.
1. She’s Distant
As we grow older and take on increasing amounts of responsibility, friendships must naturally evolve. Because everyone’s adult life progresses at different speeds, you and your friend might find yourself in different phases at different times, so this transition may a little rocky. If you find that you’ve grown apart from your friend, it could mean that one of you haven’t learned how to find that balance between your family, work, and social life. Unfortunately, it could also mean that you’re not as high on the list of her priorities anymore, which will eventually impact your friendship.
2. She Doesn’t Get Back to You Anymore
Early adulthood is one of the busiest times of life, but the old adage: “people make time for what’s important to them” rings true. If you find yourself left on read, or sent to voicemail more times than not, that’s a signal that something is definitely wrong with your friendship. Assuming that the problem isn’t that your friend is sick, or going through something emotionally, it’s very likely that your friend just doesn't want to talk to you. It's a hard truth to face, but the sooner you accept it, the better.
3. You Don’t Trust Her as Much
It’s not that you think that she’s going to spill your secrets, you just don’t feel comfortable telling her all of your business anymore. At some point, which you probably can’t even pinpoint, something changed. Maybe it’s the lackluster response she gave you after you poured your heart out to her. Or maybe, it’s the fact that you’ve noticed a change in her personality. Regardless, she’s no longer the first person that you run to when something big happens in your life, and what's worse is that she doesn’t really seem to mind.
4. You Argue about Stupid Stuff
If you find yourself arguing over insignificant things, this could be a symptom of a deeper issue. Perhaps neither of you want to address what’s really bothering you, so you lash out at each other in other ways. It’s best to sit down and hash things out once you notice this happening -- even if that means that you find that your friendship really is dead. Eventually, those smaller arguments are going to snowball into something bigger, and no one wants to end things on a negative note.
5. Conversations Are Always about the past
When you do manage to catch your friend in a text or call, what are your conversations like? Hopefully, you use them so you can catch each other up on all of the amazing things going on in each other’s lives, and the convo feels as easy and fun as it used to. Beware, however, if the only time you two can find common ground is when you’re reminiscing over the past. This is a tried and true sign that your lives have shifted in opposite directions.
The most important thing to remember is that every relationship is different. If one or more of these points apply to your friendship, then it's very possible that it could be in trouble, but it's not a guarantee. It does, however, mean something is wrong. You'll only figure out what that is, for better or worse, by scheduling time to sit down and have an honest discussion with your friend.
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