Even the kindest and confident people need to know tips for how to forgive yourself. Have you ever noticed that, even for the most forgiving people in the world, it can be simple to forgive others but really hard to forgive yourself? Perhaps it is because you expect failure and mistakes from people around you but expect a much higher standard from yourself, and than can be very unfair from a personal point of view. Finding the ability to forgive yourself for your mistakes is much more important that forgiving others in my opinion, because it helps to keep your own state of mind in a good place, and can stop you from falling in to a pit of low self esteem and low self confidence. If you need some help with this, then here are some tips for how to forgive yourself.
1. Tell Your Story
It might sound silly, but sometimes one the best ways to find forgiveness for yourself is to tell your story out loud. If you keep things deep inside, they can start to eat away at you and become a much bigger problem than they need to. Find an understanding friend and pour your heart out to them. It might help you to see your problems from a different perspective. If you don’t want to talk to somebody about it, you can even try writing it down in your journal.
2. Defeat Your past
It’s important that you realise that you are not your past; you are more your present and future. There is no point continuing to beat yourself up about something that happened years ago and that you cannot change. Instead, your focus should be on changing your present and future and making your life better so that you can start to forgive your past mistakes.
3. Forgive Others
If you don’t already, you should make more of an effort to forgive other people in your life that might have made mistakes. Getting into the act of forgiving is like any other habit, the more you do it the easier it becomes. This can be especially important if the person you’re forgiving has done you particular wrong, because by forgiving their half of the problem you are also forgiving your own without realising it.
4. Forgive Yourself
You need to realise that everyone isn’t perfect. In fact, nobody in the world is perfect, that is the nature of human beings. Forgiveness is the act of facing what you might have done in the past and acknowledging that it was a mistake, what it is also a promise to yourself not to let that one mistake define you, and a commitment to move on and look for a better future. We all make mistakes, whether big or large, but the only important thing is that you can forgive yourself and move on. Being stuck in the past isn’t good for anybody.