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7 Dangerous Expectations That Could Ruin Your Love of Life ...

By Rosalina

It's good to have high expectations in life but having expectations which are too high can actually ruin your love of life. Having high expectations means we expect the best of ourselves and others but there can come a time when the high expectations we have in life can take the joy out of living. Here are some ways in which the high expectations you might be having could be ruining your love of life.

1 Marriage

When someone gets married, they expect a life of harmony and tranquility but a marriage is something which needs to be worked at. There will be great days and there will be tough days when you probably wish you had said "I don't" instead of "I do". Of course, the good days should out-weigh the bad days but expecting every day to be filled with sunshine and lollipops is dangerous when it comes to a marriage.

2 Friendships

Friendships are another aspect of life that need care and attention and we might be having high expectations of friends and what they should be doing in our lives. When our friends don't act the way we think they should or say what we want them to, it can lead us to question a friendship but this is sometimes as a result of our expectations of them. Everyone has their own lives to lead and just because they might not always be there, it doesn't mean they don't care.


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3 Career

It's great to have high expectations of our career and where we're going in life otherwise we might remain static and stagnant. However, I believe in everything in good time and that we shouldn't put too much pressure on ourselves. If that promotion doesn't happen when you expect it to then it's not the end of the world and maybe it wasn't meant to happen then.

4 Goals

Having goals is great in life but it's also important to be realistic. By all means, dream big but don't dream so big that you're disappointed if you haven't achieved what you wanted by a certain time.

5 Mr/Mrs Right

You might be looking for that special someone but you have your sights set on perfection. And so you should! We deserve nothing less. However, we do need to be realistic because NOBODY'S perfect. Everyone has their faults so having super high expectations of that special someone is going to lead to disappointment and heartache. Perfection in relationships exists only in the movies so if you're after movie-love, just like Janice from FRIENDS, you might be waiting a long time.

6 Weight

Us ladies put so much pressure on ourselves and our weight. There are many reasons the weight might creep on. Children and ill health might be two of the reasons you have woken up one day to find you're a few pounds heavier than you were five years ago. If you want to lose weight that's great but ensure that your weight loss goals aren't unrealistic. Aim to lose a healthy amount over a sustained period.

7 Grades

Having high expectations in school, college or university is great but so many people put pressure on themselves to achieve and make themselves ill as a consequence. Having high expectations is great but also having realistic expectations is important. Getting the high grades you desire will do you no good if you become ill as a result.

These are just some of the ways high expectations might be ruining your chances of finding peace and tranquility in life. Can you think of any more?

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